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I'm so glad you're not just saying break up with him immediately. Whenever I read people talking about issues in their relationship, that's such a quick thing other people jump up on, and I didn't really want to have to sound like a weirdo who was defending her boyfriend's sweet honor one second and then ripping out his entrails the other.

And I'm not sure how effective that would be. I mean, I said directly that he doesn't understand how I feel because he's never experienced it...but I suppose you're right that I don't say it's upsetting me. I dunno, I guess I just felt like it was obvious. Or should be obvious, based upon how upset I was getting and all. But then maybe it does make a difference.

Thank you again for not tearing out his throat immediately. I'm mad at him, and I certainly don't want to have to go about defending him. ;)

Yeah, it's a given that all relationships will have rough patches and there's some situations where it's best just to drop the relationship, but I think, in your case (and most cases, actually), that you should at least try addressing the problem you're having first. Relationships are an effort on both sides, after all.

And some people don't pick up on subtly well and really need to have things directly explained to them. I think you should give it a shot, because it can make a huge difference.

But, yeah, good luck and I hope everything goes well for you, anon! :)

SA

And the anon below me has a really good point, he might see that you're upset but not understand why, too. I know I've done that to a friend on phobia and felt absolutely awful afterwards when she told me. But, it's something that I needed to know and I'm really glad she told me.

da

speaking from observing other people, sometimes they do get the impression that you are upset, but have difficulty figuring out what exactly made you upset, especially if the topic is a non-issue for them

so, yeah, definitely bring this up with him! honestly, how he reacts to a direct "this is genuinely hurting me, please don't do it" would be waaay more indicative of his character than being careless with words

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