[ SECRET POST #2296 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2296 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

11. http://i47.tinypic.com/2d0l6oj.png

[mekkio]

This secret broke my heart.

I hope they find each other and are happy too.

[(Anonymous)]

Is it an open adoption? Maybe you could put a note in her file or give a letter to the adoptive parents or something like that for when she has questions. It may still not happen, but perhaps you could just up the odds a little. Just a thought, obviously there are a lot of things that go into placing a child with an adoptive family and I don't know them or where you're at with your emotions and connections and such.

[(Anonymous)]

^ This

You can always leave something for your child incase she ever does want to find her biological family. My birth mother left me a note and it turned out I had an older half-sister. We don't always get along, but we still love each other.

I didn't meet her until I was 26 either.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

It's semi-open, and I'm talking with the adoptive family now about how much contact will happen, etc. If nothing else, since I'm using an agency my name will be there for her to find if she ever wants to. It does help.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

OP I agree with the others, I think you should definitely leave a letter, and as much info as you can. My mother met her brother when they were 50 or so, I've had an uncle ever since, and cousins, and it's been great. However it would have been so much greater if they could have met as young people, but of course that generation didn't have open adoption and it was all difficult, he had to work hard to track my Mum down, and his mother, as in my gran, had died years before.

[ex_mek82]

ngl, I teared up reading this.

I hope so too, OP. I hope so too.

[kallanda_lee]

They might, you know. I'm not adopted but I eventually met up with my halfsister (who I didn't know about).

[belacqua]

This is the sweetest secret I've read in a while. I hope so too, OP. ♥

[lunabee34]

*hugs*

I can't imagine how difficult this decision is OP and I hope you find some peace.

[(Anonymous)]

This secret gave me shivers.

[shinyhappypanic]

at first I thought the secret meant that the "other woman" was your daughter...anyway, I hope that somehow the girls can meet up someday.

[forgottenjester]

As an adopted kid I want to thank you for caring. It's nice to know how deeply you feel about the child you're having.

I've never seen this movie so I don't know how the meeting plays out but I feel like I want to... make you hopeful and not-so-hopeful at the same time. If you have an open adoption you could possibly have a very interested adult show up in the future, hoping to meet everyone and know everything. That would be like a lot of my adopted friends, heck, even my brother. On the other hand, you could also have someone like me who never bothered to find out how to even contact anyone because it doesn't matter to me. I don't understand the need to know. Then again, I feel like I'm in the minority with my feelings.

I don't know, OP. Good luck and I wish you the best and a beautiful future.

[orangescones]

Aww, I hope they get along if they ever meet too, and that the whole adoption process goes well!

(This is a really pretty secret btw.)

[(Anonymous)]

this secret made me cry

i wish all the very best for you and your girls <3

[quidam]

This is a lovely secret. Best wishes to you and the girls.

[(Anonymous)]

Overly romantic. I met my sister for the first time in my late twenties. I had this overly idealistic idea that a blood connection would mean we would be bffs and have this huge connection. She turned out to be bigot and i hated her. Now whenever i hear people like the op waxing on about blood connection i roll my eyes. Your family is who raised you. Ill never have a family connection with my real siblings or parents because they are strsngers.

[makoro]

I don't talk to my half siblings, but I like knowing who they are and that they exist. I dunno...

[(Anonymous)]

I met one of my sisters for the first time in my early twenties, and we did connect instantly and became great friends. She really is my sister now. I'm not saying the blood connection has a lot (if anything) to do with it, but the experience can be a positive and "romantic" one, too.

[(Anonymous)]

This could be one of my best friends. Her father is a big asshole who made it a hobby to impregnate women and then running away once they were in the midst of pregnancy.

My friend has so many half-siblings and somehow they all blame her for the father being scum. So they acted nice to her and behind her back trash-talked her, her mother and even manipulated her with the "we're blood related" excuse to lend them money. They never gave it back.

I hope everything works out fine for OP's child, but yeah, I tend to be pessimistic in such situations.

[silverau]

That must have been a really difficult decision. You must be really brave. I hope everything goes well for you and your family, and that they do get to meet someday. :) *hugs*

OP

[(Anonymous)]

Just wanted to thank everyone for their kind words. It's not always hard to deal with, but it's not always easy either, so the well-wishes do help.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so proud of you, OP. I know it's none of my business...but I really am.