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⌈ Secret Post #2330 ⌋

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AFRAID TO DATE?

[(Anonymous)]

So basically I lost a lot of weight and got hot. Yay!

Unfortunately, I'm too terrified to date anyone. I'm 25 years old and have never dated anyone and I seriously fear falling too hard too fast. So many of my friends are the type who fall fast and get clingy and a little obsessive and I always promised myself that that wasn't going to be me. I'm afraid that I might not be able to control myself. I mean, I've always been really intense, and I have a bit of an obsessive personality, and I form attachments so quickly... what if that transfers over to relationships?

I turn down every guy who has asked me out so far because I'm terrified of losing myself, I guess. Of changing. Of relying too much on another person. Of getting my heart broken.

How does anyone DO it?

Re: AFRAID TO DATE?

[(Anonymous)]

At 27 and still dateless (though not without a few offers), I'd love to know the answer to this one myself. Although I'm more afraid of coming off lofty and snooty, because I overcompensate for my obsessive tendencies with avoidance. Argh.

Re: AFRAID TO DATE?

[(Anonymous)]

By accepting the fact that all those things are possible, but ultimately believing that the happiness you stand to gain is worth the risk.

That's the short, relatively simple answer. The long answer is that the issues you describe (being obsessive, forming attachments too quickly) either get worked through via the trial and error, or you end up in unhappy, unhealthy relationships. I guess the question you have to ask yourself is, can you learn from negative experiences and mistakes?

Good luck, OP.