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we barely say hi to our neighbours

Why?

I'm not saying it to be rude! Just genuinely curious why people in general wouldn't socialize with people who they have such easy access to and whose lives overlap in little ways already by practicality and proximity.

(I don't mean individuals who are shy/introverted/don't like their neighbors, of course, just people in general).

I'm Texan and I have never once in my life had any relationship with my neighbors, probably because my parents are really private people. It rubbed off on me and I tend to be really standoffish toward people I don't know and I don't particularly want people who live near me to feel like they are welcome to bother me in my space.

Okay. I confess I really can't wrap my head around the logical jump from "socializing with neighbors" to "feeling welcome to bother you in your private space" but I definitely get the privacy thing, as I mentioned at the end of my first comment.

I was responding to m_e's "you talk to your neighbors on purpose? Why?" comment, like the idea was disgusting or off-putting for some reason, because I was curious about why they saw it that way. And their comment that in their experience, most people in their country are the same, because I was curious about that. I wasn't questioning the idea that some specific people personally like privacy. I know people who are the same :)

idk, I just feel like... socializing with them would just invite them to seek further interaction. But I guess I'm just an antisocial person? Like when I used to live in a dorm and was forced to talk to people in the building and then they would come knocking at my door... I just wanted them to go away! LOL

Nah, I get that. ;) Different preferences and all. But I still think it's pretty obvious why socializing with your neighbors is very convenient for those people who DO like to seek out further interaction.

Because you don't know whom they are, they can turn out to be dangerous or even worse they can come around too often and you would be forced to serve them coffee.

It is this saying in Norway, that us Norwegians are cold, just like our weather.

The only exceptions I know of neighbours socialising is in really small neighbourhoods (about 10 - 20 people in the middle of nowhere) and that is usually because the families have known each other for generations.

It is actually a thing immigrants talk about when they tell us about the difficulties adjusting to the Norwegian society, also they tend to joke about the fact that if you visit someone in Norway you will be served coffee and maybe crackers... (which is true)

It's none of your business, Yankee.

I'm with making_excuses. I have never been friendly with any of our neighbors (and the few who i *did* talk to i ended up regretting). Usually that's because we rented for years and years and our neighbors were transient, and usually shifty. Thieves, drug dealers/makers, people with the kind of drama-llama in their life that leads them to have frequent, extremely loud, arguments on their back deck at 3 in the morning.

And if you say hi one day, the next day they're on your porch asking to borrow your phone, your can opener, cat food for the cat they're currently neglecting, hey, can we share that bbq with you?

No, no, no, and no. I like my little hermit world of me, my SO and my daughter. I like my online friends that i don't have to actually interact with if i'm not in the mood. Or worry will break in and steal my tv. (The people who lived downstairs from us years ago were breaking into and stealing from the neighbors to pay their rent. Awesome. I shall stay home when you are home, thank you. They also had flea infestation, thanks for that.)

Yeah, but, uh, I was talking about making_excuses' comment about Norway in general/socializing in general, which they answered nicely. Not about specific personal preferences or circumstances, which is a totally different thing altogether.

It's a Scandinavian thing. We value our privacy and our private spheres very much, thank you.

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