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[ SECRET POST #2348 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2348 ⌋

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[Bubble Guppies]

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[Bubble Guppies]

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04. http://i.imgur.com/eDZ1vzE.jpg
[linked for porn-ish, illustrated]

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05. [SPOILERS for A Song of Ice and Fire]

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06. [SPOILERS for Star Trek Into Darkness]

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07. [WARNING for rape]

[World of Warcraft]

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08. [WARNING for incest, abuse, possible non-con]

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09. [WARNING for pedophilia, rape]
http://i.imgur.com/yVPrzc7.png
[linked for graphic rape in fic text which was, funnily enough, not marked by OP]

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I'm emotionally exhausted. I just broke up with a friend who was literally a parasite on my life. What made the break up so bad is that she acted so self-righteously for me deciding to basically *value* myself instead of *her*. So now I feel like the bad one.

On the other hand no one else really put up with her. I'm anticipating bad times ahead for her and, a little bit cruel, looking forward to the drama.

Has any one else broken up with a friend that was bad for them and did bad stuff happen to that friend afterwards? Basically FS, tell me about bastard ex-friends getting their comeuppance >:)

I would feel less horrid about the break up if I knew I wasn't the only one taking glee in an ex-friends misery.

(I don't want to give details, please don't ask)

I had a "friend" in elementary/middle/high school who was really snobby, and assumed that she was always right, and that her drama was automatically more important than everyone else's drama because her drama was ~Lesbian Drama because she was a Lesbian first and a human being with compassion towards her fellow students second

she made a HUGE FUCKING DEAL in our senior year about how she was going to join the military, dedicating her senior projects to it, cutting her hair, making sure EVERYONE knew

and then, in my freshman year in college, I ran into her

and it was on the day that all the military students (I want to say it's ROTC?) had to wear their uniforms

she wasn't in uniform

still makes me happy tbh

There was once this chick in my Army Reserves unit who went around telling everyone how she was going to ROTC after Basic Training Camp and was going to be an officer. She was a real snot to a couple of Sergeants and a pain to everyone else. So when she didn't make it through BTC the general consensus was nothing of value had been lost.

We had one like this in my BCT platoon, too. I also had the biggest asshole I've ever met as a DS in AIT and it warmed my heart to hear he got hurt not long after I graduated and was medically discharged.

I knew a couple of Drill Sergeants who tried to act like they were a movie and all they had to yell at people and that made them successful. Most of the ones I had were good people, but one or two took that job because it gave them an outlet for their sadistic/asshole tendencies.

Unless your friend was your unborn baby or nonhuman, they were not literally a parasite. Sorry you had a shitty friend though. And you SHOULD be putting your well-being first. Everyone should. That's why all the airplane crash manuals say to secure your own oxygen mask before helping other passengers.

par·a·site [par-uh-sahyt] Show IPA
noun
1.
an organism that lives on or in an organism of another species, known as the host, from the body of which it obtains nutriment.
2.
a person who receives support, advantage, or the like, from another or others without giving any useful or proper return, as one who lives on the hospitality of others.

I would have been happy to share stories of a breakup with a friend to help you cope, but I'm not going to help you "take glee in their misery". How fucking gross can you get?

I don't take any glee whatsoever in my ex-friends' misery.

Hey, a lot of people can't handle a breakup, even if it's a friendship breakup, so at least you got out of it at the right time.

I had a friend in high school who was always calling me to talk about how miserable her life was, and after awhile I was really tired of it. After high school, we just drifted apart. A few years later I asked another friend if she still talked to the bad friend we had, and from what my friend said, she was still the same, whining about her life and not-so-subtly comparing herself to my friend over everything, so I was grateful that I didn't have to put up with her anymore.

...Welp, I'm sort of going through the same thing? But it's more like, for me, a 'well, you don't want to bother to make time to talk/see/communicate with me? Alright, but don't get mad when I don't bother either.'

That said, I don't really take glee in it. I may not *like* them, but they're still people and that just...idk. I can't do it unless they do something truly horrible and people I've been friends with rarely are that sort. -shrugs-

I'm kind of going through the same too with the "if you can't be arsed to talk to me then I'll stop trying to" thing. It's annoying me because she'll text me out of the blue asking if we can make plans, and then she won't follow up on it, and then I'm feeling like a sucker for thinking that she would actually follow through this time around.

AYRT

Yeah...It's similar for me. My thing is that she'll do it, then not understand why I'm not 'Happyhappyjoyjoy!' When she talks to me. Then she'll stick around just long enough that I'll start half-believing her...and *poof*. Gone again, wash, rinse and repeat.

What really sucks is that we were close for a pretty good amount of time then she suddenly started pulling this crap.

I had a friend for a very long time who often told me how horrible I was as a person, listed all my faults, and accused me of bringing her down. She used to tell me that I was responsible for dragging her down and ruining her life. Several times she "broke up" with me after these little sessions and it might be years before she came back/got in touch. I cared about her, despite this, and never closed the door on her when she came back.

The last time she stopped calling me, I stopped calling her. I moved on with my life, went back to school, got new friends who value and support me and my personal growth. I'm happier than I've ever been.

Sometimes I look at her Twitter feed or her FB page when I get nostalgic for the times she wasn't shredding me up. It reminds me of why the good times were never worth the bad ones and prevents me from reaching out to her. She's a recluse now, weighs about 500 lbs, and has no RL friends, only her family. I'm sad to see what has become of her but I'm not sad that I'm not her whipping boy any more.

Based on our current situations, I realize how toxic she was to me and how much better off I am now without her in my life. I hope that you recover well, OP, and realize that you are so much more than what one horrible friend said to/about you.

I used to have a couple friends that helped me through a tough spot in my life, and they were really supportive and two of the few people I considered family.

And then one of them pulled the, "You can't complain about your life because my life was worse," card on my partner, and the other was on his side (understandable, I suppose, as they were a couple), so I just...stopped talking to them. Down the line, there was an anon-hate meme going on, and somebody brought up my shitty ex-friend (he was a rather infamous troll/asshole on LJ) and I anonymously agreed, saying he was a fucking jerk. Well, turns out that somebody brought up something only a few people knew about (myself included) and there were some pretty bigoted comments going on. His girlfriend IMed me and straight up asked me if I was the one to bring it up. I told her I called him an ass, but that was it. It pretty much hit it home that I was right to drop them if they couldn't even trust me enough to keep private shit like that to myself :/

I haven't seen either of them since, though, so I've no idea where they're at now, and quite frankly, I don't even give a fuck.

I'm not going to give details either, but breaking up with my best "friend" was one of the best decisions of my life.

Broke up with a close friend who saw himself as something more. It was a really destructive two weeks of him being in denial and demanding to know what the fuck was wrong with me and how he hadn't been sleeping for days because of it. Eventually he took the hint and we never talked to each other again.

That's not to say I was totally blameless either. I could've been a lot more graceful in the way I told him that I wanted to end things; as it was I panicked and basically shared my feelings in their most blunt direct way possible.

I didn't feel gleeful about it though... mostly just relieved and, above all else, free.

I've broken up with quite a few friends this year. it's freezing rain outside here so I hope they're all collectively locked out of their houses at this point in time.

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