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I feel silly. Because last night and this morning I was fine. It wasn't until nearly a day went by that I finally realized what I saw. And it isn't like I even knew the man, so I don't know why it is freaking me out so much now.

Hey now, it's not silly, it's good that you care enough to be freaked out now that you realize. You've got empathy! That's great! There's nothing wrong with wanting or needing to talk to someone and work it through, I'd be worried if you weren't freaking out really.

Please don't feel silly.

You saw something that's incredibly disturbing. The fact that you didn't realize it until later doesn't erase that; in fact, it can amplify it, because something you viewed as mundane has now been put in a different light. The fact that you didn't know the man doesn't matter; he's a fellow human being, and technically a neighbor, and you feel empathy for him, and that is good and natural.

You are normal. Your reaction is normal. And someone who is trained in this stuff can help you process it and get through it.

Take care and hang in there, anon. Love and light to you and to all in your area who were affected by this.

AYRT

It's not silly, not even a little. What you saw was horrific and traumatic. You didn't realize what you saw until a day went by because your brain was protecting you. You were very probably in shock and could even still be slowly coming out of it.

I'm not really comfortable going into detail and I'm not going to do that. But my own experience was that realizations came to me over time. Just when I thought I was coming to terms and coping well, something new would occur to me and set me back further than I had started out. And I didn't know the people, either, which somehow made certain things harder for me to cope with. My imagination would fill in things I didn't know about the people and the accident and explosion.

Please contact a professional to talk about this. Therapy is expensive and the chances of finding a therapist suited to helping you are pretty hit and miss. But there are better resources for you, resources that are free or at least affordable. Violent crimes hotlines are one resource, and some hospitals have programs through their burn units for people like us. Your local fire department might also be able to make recommendations or even have programs of their own. I have had the best help from from my fire department in both a counseling program they run and also getting to know some of their firemen over the years.

And I'm so sorry to do this, but I have to excuse myself from the thread now. Which is all the more reason I implore you to seek specialized help. I am certain I would be better able to cope if I had sought help sooner. I waited years and now it's been many more years and I am still a wreck. The people I've known who sought help early on are truly coping and overcoming. I don't know that I ever will.

I am gonna talk to the local PD (I am FB friends with some of them) and see what they say.

I'm glad, OP. Witnessing that kind of trauma is terribly disturbing, and I hope you can get some help.

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