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⌈ Secret Post #2353 ⌋

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[Boy Meets World]

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[Firefly]

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[Hannibal]

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[BBC Sherlock]

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[Vocaloid]

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[Dept. Heaven]

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[Roger Federer]

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[Dogma]

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[Yu-Gi-Oh: Bonds Beyond Time]

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[Leonard Nimoy]

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[a song of ice and fire/game of thrones]

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[Dragon Age Origins]

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[Arrested Development]

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[Fall Out Boy]

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[Homestuck]

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[Joss Whedon]

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[Chicago Fire]

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[Homestuck]

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[Final Fantasy VII]

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[Enya]

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[Discworld]

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I wasn't actually aware that you could get help for being ignored. It seems more like it has something to do with other people than yourself. Maybe I'll look into that.

Although I will say that I do have communication problems since I'm not fluent in the language of my current country of residence. Maybe you've got something going on there.

Time for you to ignore the idiots above, OP. It's not your fault that some people suck, and there really isn't anything you can do about it.

If they are already ignoring you, then that is the first and biggest clue that they really aren't worth YOUR time.

Resigning yourself to "that's the way it is" doesn't make people evolve nearly as often as it makes them resentful, bitter and deviod of hope.

Did I say OP should resign themselves? I was going for "get new friends" but guess I should have stated that outright?

There are some people in this world (fortunately few) who take an instant gut dislike to some people, for whatever reasons; thing is, instead of taking a step back and examining why they feel this way, and actively trying to be better people and going out of their way to NOT treat the object of their dislike badly, they go with their first gut instinct, no matter how wrong it is, and they either ignore the object of their dislike (good outcome) or they actively try to get the person they dislike to go away (bully them, try to get them fired/transferred, etc. -- bad outcome) and all for no other (or even logical) reason than "I don't like you and can't even say why!"

My point is, THEY end up losing out in that situation, NOT the person they have taken dislike to.

OP not being fluent in the language is a whole other side to the situation however.

Fair enough, I believe I misinterpreted your comment then. I take back the stupid bit.

Cool beans. I didn't make myself clear enough, either.

Maybe, maybe not. When you already have poor social skills it can be fairly hard to tell.

Do you always talk about the same things? Are they interests that are yours that others have given no indication they'd share? Have you already done something that could make the group dislike you?

Doesn't mean they are great people you are hanging with, but you might have done all sorts of shit/sent out all kindsa signals/not sent out signals at all.

You mentioned it's not your language. Has that changed your attitude? You might present yourself very differently back home where you'd have a far greater confidence with your words.

A looooooooot of people making a whole lot of assumptions about OP's social skills. F!S, I thought we were better than this.

A: no we aren't and B: It's a fair thing to speculate on. It's not like the lot of us are known for being super popular and charismatic.

Sad truth, it's cause we relate and are projecting.

If being ignored happens just some of the time, what the hell ever.

If it happens most of the time, OP may have some social skills to examine. Ones that can be improved on once you recognize whatever it is that's going on, so yay!

I don't know if this is an option for you, or if you have tried it but have you considered taking a speech therapy or public speaking class? I used to kind of... fade? into the background because of a speech issue and other related neurouses. I didn't want to be seen because I was afraid of people. But once I took speech therapy classes I got a sense of ... confidence? self? I don't know how to describe it. I felt more comfortable taking up space and I think it made me project that so people registered me more?

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OP

Re: OP

No you are stupid

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Re: No you are stupid

Re: No you are stupid

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ITT

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