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⌈ Secret Post #2354 ⌋

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[Kodomo no Jikan]

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[figure skating/Brian Joubert]

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[Stargate: Atlantis/ Sesame Street]

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[K project]

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[Teen Wolf]

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[Married...With Children]

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[Homestuck]

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[One Piece]

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[Game of Thrones]

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[Pokémon Black & White]

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[Phantom of the Opera 2004]

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[Iron Man 3]

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[Neverwinter Nights 2]

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[Almost Human/Total Recall 2077]

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[Neil Gaiman and Amanda Palmer]

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[Fire Emblem: Awakening]

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[A Bag of Hammers]

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[Without a Trace]

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[Big Bang Theory]

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[The Three Investigators]

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[Team Fortress 2]

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I got the news yesterday, and... I still can't process it. I don't understand how I'm "supposed" to cope if I'm not, you know, bursting into floods of tears or anything. I carried on with my evening as normal. I was a little shocked, and sad that he died, but I didn't feel any kind of acknowledgement beyond that. Is that normal? Shouldn't I be more upset? Shouldn't I have felt something besides a little sadness? Is this wrong?

t;dr anon thinks she's grieving wrong :(

No, it's not. I've reacted this same way to a few of the deaths of loved ones, including my mom. I didn't really react unless I was around other family members, and I feel like I was mostly crying because they were... [shrug]

I think as long as you're not hurting anyone--including yourself--there's really no wrong way to grieve.

I think it depends on what kind of person you are and how close you were.

There's no such thing as grieving wrong. How you feel is how you feel and the way you react is the way you react. You shouldn't feel bad about it. Maybe you're just still processing it, maybe you're grieving in your own way, whatever. But don't feel guilty about it. There's no 'proper' way to grieve.

I'm sorry about your loss.

It's ṕerfectly normal and you're doing nothing wrong. We all grieve in different ways.

Everyone process pain, grief, and loss differently. I don't know how close you were to your grandfather or how often you saw him, but if he wasn't a major part of your life, then it's understandable that his death may not have hit you very hard. If you did have a close bond with him, you may be experiencing a delayed reaction to the grief. Ultimately, there's no "wrong" way to grieve -- don't try to force a reaction just because you think you "should" be having it. Feel how you feel. It's okay. If you feel differently later on, that's also okay. When someone in your life has died, the last thing you need to be worrying about is whether you're performing grief correctly.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Anon. You and your family are in my thoughts.

When my Grandpop passed away, I felt the same way as you: not really feeling much at all. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to feel. Do whatever feels most comfortable and natural for you, even if it's just going about your day or comforting loved ones. If you need to cry, cry, but don't feel pressured to do so. Once your mind has caught up with recent events, you'll be better able to get your emotions out. If you feel that coming on, remember that your family feels the same way. Call or visit them if you need to. It is great to support each other in such a difficult time.

Again, I'm sorry about your Grandpa, and I hope you and your family find comfort in one another. <3

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