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⌈ Secret Post #2355 ⌋

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Thank you, I really appreciate that. I just can't help but feel badly though. My girlfriend has pretty horrible problems with depression and other issues (she sees a therapist and it definitely helps, but it only does so much) so there's also the fact that I don't want to aggravate that. Every day is different. On the one hand, I don't want to break up with her when she's at a low point because that just seems like kicking her when she's down. On the other hand, breaking up with her when she seems to be in a happy state would probably just send her spiraling downward. I know that I shouldn't hold myself responsible for her mental well being and that doing so isn't healthy for either of us but...whenever she's going through a rough time, we'll chat for a while and she'll talk about how talking to me is like magic and she really appreciates that I'm there for her and that she's never considered having a long term relationship before she met me. And it makes me feel a bit shitty that I'll be taking that away from her even though I know it will end up being best for both us.

I'm basically just vomiting my feelings at this point and I don't really expect anyone to reply to this but I do feel better talking about it

Feel free to ignore anything I say if you want. Since you replied to me I feel I should answer.

I know you feel like that because you care but trust me, you're actually doing her a bigger disservice by staying with her. She deserves someone who isn't bound to her by worry and fear. And you deserve someone who you don't have to fear and worry about. It's a sweet sentiment you have but here's the deal when it comes to things like this. It sounds cruel sometimes but you come first. You have to come first. You have to prioritize yourself, your own well-being, and your happiness. Yes, you care about her and you're obviously trying to make this easiest for her and that's great. It means you're not selfish and you're actually a great person. But when it comes down to it you can't harm yourself to help her when that's not what she's probably asking for. In a weird way, by hurting yourself you're hurting her too.

Letting things out does help. I'm glad you felt you could do that here. I hope things turn up for you, anon. And if you ever want that hug let me know.

I know you feel like that because you care but trust me, you're actually doing her a bigger disservice by staying with her.

Yeah, I know. Before she cancelled yesterday, I had been so sure of myself and I was completely confident that I was going to break up with her no matter what. But now that we can't see each other for a while (we're both too busy with work and family for the next few days and she lives an hour away) I guess it let the doubt creep back in. I know I have to do it soon somehow though because she's going on vacation with her family next week for a couple of weeks and if I don't do it before she leaves then I may literally go insane. I really hope we can see each other before then, but if we can't then I really might have to do it over Skype which isn't my ideal plan at all. But I guess that's still probably better than letting her think everything's okay for another few weeks.

I appreciate the hug and that you've been listening

You're mostly there, but there's the push. If you can't meet next time, just do it. Even if it's over the phone. Even if it ruins her vacation.

You have started a process that will make it worse and worse each time, till you either explode and actually are a complete dick in the process, or you give up and you become the depressed one.

Also, get ready to block her number if you do it over something like that. She's more likely to try to call you a million times. Which does suck. But trust me, when you cut it off, cut it off completely.

I would go with

insanenoodlyguy's advice. It has to be done. Each time you give up it makes it that much easier to give up next time.

No problem, anon. That's what I'm here for. I really do hope it all works out for you.

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