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⌈ Secret Post #2355 ⌋

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I've been going through a rough patch lately (I don't know if you have seen my latest posts here), but basically, a friend just called me after a week of radio silence to tell me he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore.

I know I haven't been the best friend ever. My memory is awful, and it gets terrible whenever I'm stressed. The more stressed I am, the worse it gets. I honest to god cannot remember important things, like whole conversations, and dates. Sometimes it's like some stuff never happened, for me. Thus, after a sucession of spectacular failures of me as a friend with this guy lately, I forgot one big important day: He was going to get a paper published on the university magazine and he had invited all of his friends, including me.

It had been his birthday last week, too, and I had to leave early because of my mom. To add insult to injury, I had been having a fight with my SO before going to the party, and she kept pestering me via whatsapp. He noticed that too, and was (rightfully) offended.

I know I screwed up and presented him my apologies, but he didn't accept them (and I know he wasn't obligated to do so). He has good reasons to be very mad at me. The only thing I can say in my defense is, that my current mental illness makes every relationship really difficult, my anxiety blocks me from keeping in touch like a normal person would and remembering important stuff and-- well, no, I should have known better than to make those mistakes, because since I already know what difficulties I have I should have done a better work on preventing this.

I let him go. If he's mad at me, there's not much I can do to change his opinion. I wronged him. It's just... It's really depressing. He has been my best friend for twelve years. I don't know what will I do without him.

You'll get over this. You'll find ways to make your life work. It doesn't feel like it now, and it likely won't feel like it for a long time. But it will happen.

I'm kind of tired, everything is happening at the same time. I hope you're right, Anon.

Maybe give it some time, work on your own issues than when you've got this sorted out and you still want to be friends with him (or others) tentatively give contact? (this is what I did with an old friend who I fell out with through my own similar faults, granted we reconnected after 2 years but that space really helped us settled down and work ourselves out and then we just accidentally slipped back into friendship when running into each other. not saying this will happen with you, just that those 2 years were very important for helping me grow as an individual and learn how to do thing/deal with myself without stressing out my friend/ex friend more - even if we had not become friends, taking those two years to focus on myself instead of fretting over friendships helped and some friendships just kinda accidentally happened)
Although him contacting you to call the friendship off sounds very final.

Maybe just focus on looking after yourself and sorting yourself out. You will get new friends C:

I-- Yeah, I think the only thing I can do now is to work on my issues and hopefully I will be a less shitty person in the future, and worthier of this friendship. Thanks for the advice, Nonny.

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