[ SECRET POST #2378 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2378 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I don't claim to know what the OP's problem is, but there are people who suddenly lose interest in a fandom and any activity with you to be on Tumblr and give you the brush off when they OMG get all those 100 followers that makes them feel so much better about themselves?

Nothing wrong with Tumblr itself but there are people this shallow no matter where you go.

[lirren]

Maybe they're being shallow. Or maybe there's something going on in their life that you don't know about and 100 casual "friends" are easier for them to deal with than 5 close friends that they can't talk to. You don't know. You can't ever know 100% what's going on in someone else's life behind closed doors, even if you think you do.

[(Anonymous)]

And you don't know 100% about what is going on in the lives of the people left behind. And you don't know 100% about what they're going through.

I think people are allowed to be disappointed when others move on, and given a brush off instead of a nice I just need to move on, okay we understand, no deep explanations needed, because you don't know what is going on in their lives, either, and you will never know.

At least I gave people on my lists that much when I moved on to Tumblr. There was no need for deep talk, but enough to acknowledge that they have been friends. They deserve that much and were very understanding. No uncomfortable talks. Just enough to let them know that they haven't done anything wrong.

Because, you never know how much it might hurt someone for not at least being acknowledged instead of being snubbed. Because you don't know 100% what going on behind closed doors with their lives.

It goes both ways fyi.

[lirren]

I never said it didn't. I was simply pointing out that it's entirely possible they're not simply being shallow.

[(Anonymous)]

When they go out of their way to not know you, they are being shallow.

[(Anonymous)]

Nope. It means they don't want to know you, for whatever reason. :)

[(Anonymous)]

da

I have some 300 followers, I don't know all of them and I'm not even going to try. I'm there to reblog pictures, participate in fandoms. If I do make some friends, cool! But no-one is in anyway obligated to get to know someone who chose to follow them. If a follower wants to try to be friends, cool, ry away but there is no guarantee and no obligation

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe they just don't want to know you - you don't sound like someone I want to know.

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, no. No one owes you shit.

They owe it too you not be rude about, but other than that? Nothing.

[(Anonymous)]

No one owes you an agreement with how you see things. If I feel I owe a friend something, that is my own business, not for you to police.

If they are rude about it, then, yes, I am entitled to feel disgusted or disappointed. I don't owe them or you a denial of my feelings.

[(Anonymous)]

What the fuck are you talking about? None of what you said applies to what I said.

You aren't owed friendship. If someone doesn't want to be your friend then they don't have to be your friend.

You get to feel however you want to about that, but that doesn't change the fact that no one owes you their friendship.

[(Anonymous)]

So what if they're shallow? No one *has* to be your friend. If they want to dump for 100 followers, so what? They don't owe you shit.

[(Anonymous)]

And no one owes them the not being disappointed. No one owes you or them jack shit.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow.

People can feel whatever they want and have whatever opinion they want. That doesn't mean they expect anything owed to them.

[(Anonymous)]

The person I was responding too wasn't saying they were disappointed that someone moved on - they were implying that it was *wrong* of them to move on - which is bullshit.