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⌈ Secret Post #2395 ⌋

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[The Most Popular Girls in School]

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[Welcome to Night Vale]

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[Gerard Way and Frank Iero]

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[Mastumoto Jun]

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[Macdonald Hall]

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[Downton Abbey]

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[Generator Rex]

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[Neil Oliver]

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[Star Trek]

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[Star Trek: TNG]

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[The Vampire Diaries]

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I think it was a lot worse back in the thick of it. Over two years have passed since then, and I've really been able to distance myself, look back, and evaluate it from a more objective viewpoint. I still don't think I was completely blameless, but once again that solely stems from the way I confronted him about it and the words I ended up using.

Oh! And if you're interested in some f!s history tie-ins... this secret (http://fandomsecrets.livejournal.com/670818.html?thread=428795234#t428795234) was me. I made it soon after our final confrontation and my emotions were all a mess. After all, I had, in my mind back then, just single-handedly destroyed a year long friendship. When I told him I needed some temporary space, I really had meant it. I thought we'd be able to sort things about and go back to, well, if not normal, then at least something less toxic than what I'd been beginning to feel. And when things ultimately fell apart, I think a part of me wanted me to blame myself for it, but I just couldn't feel guilty, and not feeling guilty is what ultimately made me feel guilty. (Hello, Mary Crawley.)

TBH, I think I only used the Sherlock comparison because I'd just watched the series for the first time and didn't want it to end up as n!f in the fail bar. Also it was the best metaphor I knew at the time, which I can now sum up in a much more accurate and less presumptuous manner; I was his Manic Pixic Dream Girl.

I also phrased the secret a lot differently since I think I ended up mentioned in the comments, he'd taken to lurking on the sites I visited, and I was afraid he'd see and confront me again if I posted a more accurate version of how things went down. (And I'd actually forgotten about that part until I trudged through the archives and found that secret/thread again. It just screams of controlling behavior and skeeviness now, but I must've normalized it back then.)

I don't think you are to blame AT ALL. Maybe you could have handled it better, idk, but it's not your fault he was a creepy douche, and people who are being creeped on may not always know what to do.

I'm not familiar at all with Sherlock so I'll take your word for it...but yikes, am I glad you got out of that...

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