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⌈ Secret Post #2402 ⌋

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Comments

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah....the clothes thing was stupid.


So far I've gone out store to store twice. Came home with some business cards and an application. Everybody else? Applications online.

I think it depends on the area.

I've considered leaving but...uh...idk I'd die without my medication and my parents INSIST on doling my medication out. The minute I miss a day or take my meds too late? They decide I can't be trusted to do it, and take control. "We can't trust her to take her own medication. We have to do it."

I can't question them or hey I'm arguing and get my shit taken.

So sorry if I sound like I'm whining. But I'd like to have a place to complain about this situation I'm stuck in without having something taken from me.

And the eviction threats? Well...when I tell them that "hey I want to leave and go out on myself. I have a plan and everything" All I asked is that they do like they said they would years ago when I talked about moving and said they would pay for a medication I would DIE without. The moment they realized I was serious about my plan....."no you can't stay at a homeless shelter those aren't for people like you, it's for alcoholics and abused people. Stay here!"

But when I screw up they say they'll kick me out to keep me in line.

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[(Anonymous)]

Do you have a public library? Because there's free internet there. Have you looked into any job-training or independent living programs for people with disabilities? Because that sounds like a place to start.

And if you really do feel like you're being abused, you need to talk to somebody of authority.

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[jaybie_jarrett]

Yeah It's a pretty big city.

I've taken a look at a few of them I've developed a plan . Basically, to play along with them . "If you don't like it, leave" "oh okay. Lemme get my bags packs. I know the address of a good shelter. Oh and I'll need my meds too"

I honestly believe they just don't know what really want. If their threats don't get to me.

Thanks for the advice.

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[(Anonymous)]

That sounds like a good plan, actually, should it come to that.

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[(Anonymous)]

That does sound like emotional and economical abuse.

And no, shelters aren't only for abused and alcoholic people, it's for people who need a place to stay when they need it (like you, if you so chose to). Your parents are controlling you with fear, but it sounds like you already know this.

How expensive is your medication? Could you afford to pay it yourself as you find a place to stay on your own? Definitely try to working towards saving money and make sure you put it in a bank account your parents don't have access to.

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[jaybie_jarrett]

Not sure. I think it's fairly inexpensive. The other medicine I take for my OCD / anxiety is expensive but also important I'm a nervous wreck without it. I have some savings put away in two jars in my room.

I think I could pay for it...maybe for two months unless I got a job quickly.

Edit: shit ...I just found out I was wrong. Synthroid is twenty dollars.and my other stuff is over $100 without insurance, I swear Our medical system needs a way to give people medicine they need and not rob them blind.

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[thene]

Would they take you off your insurance if you left home? That's...unusual to say the least, and I'd note that denying medical care to children when you can afford it is a VERY common narcissistic behaviour.

That said, avoid DaughtersOfNarcissisticMothers - the site's admin is really sketchy. Check out this instead: http://bandbacktogether.com/adult-children-of-Narcissistic-parents-resources/

Re: TW:....over-controlling parents...I guess...

[thene]

That's very sad, because a huge part of being an adult is making mistakes and learning from them. I wish there was a way for you to talk to them WITHOUT it being seen as 'questioning' them, eg, if you were asking for their help in coming up with a goal list/roadmap for becoming more independent, or asking if you should all renegotiate the household responsibilities so you're doing your full share as a third adult household member. Or a list of things you want their help learning how to do around the house/garden/neighbourhood, so you could then go out and ask around to see if anyone needed household help/lawns mowed/etc so you could make a bit of money.

The other option would be the nuclear one, eg. just packing your bags and going, or refusing to take your medication unless they allowed you to control it. At the end of the day they can't MAKE you do anything. All they can do is issue threats and act on them, and if you can survive without that adapter for a while? If they don't HAVE any other threats after that, you can then do what you want with impunity. As the dude said, the ultimate weapon is the ability to say 'no' and take the consequences.

Not all overcontrolling parents are narcissists, but the showering thing is the kind of bizarrity that means one can't rule it out. Though I'd wonder if your OCD is inherited from a parent obsessed with ritual cleanliness. You should ask them to get that checked out, and meanwhile, bring it up with another adult while they're in the room to give them a really awkward and embarrassing reality check. That would be fun.