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Sometimes you watch movies you don't care about with co-workers to keep everything friendly at work - it's not about the actual movie.

That... seems kind of weird. Sorry, but I'm not spending $12+ on a movie I don't want to see just because a co-worker couldn't take no for an answer.

A lot of my co-workers were into Twilight when it was out (despite being otherwise mentally well adjusted adult women) and they knew exactly how I felt about Twilight, so they knew better than to invite me to the premieres when they went. Our friendship/workship whatever you want to call it didn't suddenly dissolve or explode because we don't have the same tastes in entertainment.

I paid $18 to see Iron Man 3 because my co-worker friends were all going to see it together. Usually, that is the kind of movie I stick in my netflix queue and forget about, but I went for social reasons.

But if you want to be social with your co-workers (which to be honest, more often than not, I don't), wouldn't it make more sense to plan an outing that you'll all enjoy rather than one (or more) people shelling out more than you'd spend on a restaurant dinner just to see a movie that you don't want to see?

NA

Sort of - but here's the thing. Not going to something all the other's are can mean being kind of isolated for a time afterwards since you know, chances are, they're going to be discussing whatever event it was they went to, and you won't have anything to say/they wouldn't talk about it with you since you weren't there. So it can cause you to be lonely, and it's also like a lot of friendships with it being give and take.

this. friendships involve give and take, which means sometimes you have to give a little in order to maintain them. if you keep turning them down, don't be surprised when they eventually decide to stop being friends with you, because who wants to be friends with someone who refuses to do anything that they won't enjoy 100%?

To be honest. I have friends, and I have co-workers. I am friendly with my co-workers, but they're not my friends. We have very little in common other than our job description, and I honestly don't think about them when I'm away from work.

I'm friendly and I talk to them at work, and I have no problem joining in discussions even if I wasn't involved in their outings.

I understand (and they do too) that we're just not really similar. Most of them are mothers, while I don't ever want kids, and am happy working in my job and being involved with fandom and being around non-work friends, so we're not really 'outside work' friends.

I actually can't recall ever being outside-work friends with any co-workers I've ever had at any job, because to me, when I leave work I want to leave work, I don't want to still be thinking about it after I go home, or on my days off.

Other people like to be close friends with their co-workers, and that's cool, it's just not something I've ever done, or had an interest in doing.

*YOU* might do that. Not everyone feels they have to suck up to their coworkers that badly.

It's not necessarily sucking up. I know some workplaces do movie nights or picnics or such as "team building", and excluding yourself can make yourself a pariah at work.

OP/ayrt

Sorry for the wait because I was (hah) out with coworkers XD

Our workplace is casual enough that, thankfully, social events are not necessary to keep things friendly at work. (well I hope). Because people are usually pretty understanding about not being interested in something. As a stand alone I wouldn't have minded going, but being tricked by other friend made them cascade into an angry snowball of "I don't want to do that!" >:(

Next time we will go see something we both are curious in, because I did tell him that I unfortunately didn't enjoy the movie much, so there shouldn't be a repeat there..

god sorry I really do tldr don't I

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