[ SECRET POST #2446 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2446 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]




















04. [WARNING for gore, blood, etc]

[How To Train Your Dragon]


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05. [WARNING for child abuse]



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[Fall Out Boy's "The Phoenix"]


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09. [WARNING for underage]

[pokemon conquest]


















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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

That sense of relief is the problem. That is a minor relapse on the road to recovery. Everytime that ability to hideaway in the safe space is invoked is yet more time added onto the recovery. It fucking sucks, but it is the road that has to be traveled sooner or later. Making it later makes the road harder and longer.

[(Anonymous)]

Orrrr it keeps you from overloading.

It's like if you severely injured your legs and have been bedridden for months. You can't just get up and start running marathons, you'll hurt yourself again. You have to take it slowly and taper things up, getting plenty of rest.

"Throw the baby in the water, see if it can swim" is not a viable strategy in all areas.

[nyxelestia]

Interestingly enough, if you throw a baby into water within the first month or so of life, it'll start swimming on its own. After that period, though, the swimming instincts are gone, and kids have to be taught. The older someone is when they start to swim, the harder it usually is for them to learn.

There is a big difference between giving someone a place to rest their injured legs in the process of recovery, and constantly getting things for them when they put their feet up so they never have to put their feet back down again. Safe spaces start out trying to be the former, but increasingly they end up turning into the latter.

[glo_unit]

So the answer is no safe spaces for anyone ever? Because that's what most people here seem to be suggesting.

[nyxelestia]

You and I must be reading different threads, because I've been seeing mostly suggestions on how to change safe spaces or to use them less, not how to get rid of them.

[(Anonymous)]

Actually, it's not up to the safe space to adjust to the needs of the individual - THAT'S coddling. Everyone has to work out for themselves how to interact with these spaces in a way that's healthy and right for them, and it's them and their therapist's job to figure out that way, not tumblr's or LJ's.

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

i don't think that's true necessarily, anon! forgive my COOL ANECDOTE BRO (TM), but i am trans and would have been unable to realize this in the climate i live in. having places where this was not derided constantly gave me a place where i could conceptualize myself as trans without immediately dismissing the possibility because of ambient disgust and hatred for trans people. do i still have to go out into the 'real world' where there is that? yes, of course. but there is no 'recovering' from being attacked for being trans - i am going to have to deal with this my entire life. having a safe space is... kinda like in videogames where you need to eat bubbles to live in a water level, if you will forgive my juvenile simile.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

totally. Safe spaces are necessary and you don't magically recover from everything - I like having a safe space from the patriarchy, for example. I don't ever want to fucking recover from that.

[(Anonymous)]

To be fair you don't fucking sound like a mental health professional.

There's a difference between having a supportive environment (of which fandom spaces can be a part) or being enabled (in which fandom spaces can play a role).

[(Anonymous)]

For you, maybe. Please don't extrapolate your individual experience to apply it universally.

For me? Safe spaces are a haven when I feel like I'm going to explode. And yes, I need the haven, because the explosion WILL set me back much farther than taking a breather.