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Personally I don't think that 'lecturing' your friends about ANY of these things is remotely your business.

Maybe not lecture, but asking a friend to stop smoking for their own sake is considered acceptable, and interventions happen all the time with alcoholics, but it's considered insanely inappropriate to do the same with someone who eats far more than is healthy?

Here's the thing. Smoking is inherently unhealthy. There are no benefits; it is literally poison. Food is not poison; too much of the wrong kinds of food may be unhealthy, but even "unhealthy" food in moderation is not. It's a sliding scale, rather than a binary yes/no situation the way smoking is. Thus, it's more of an individual judgment call whether the way a person eats is "unhealthy" or not (especially since, if you don't live with a person and they don't describe to you their eating habits, you don't know how they eat all the time; maybe they indulge when out with friends in ways they don't at home). Eating "healthy" is relative, while smoking "healthy" is pretty much not.

Even so, most smokers would probably tell you to mind your own goddamn business.

An intervention is not just for someone who is behaving in a way that we think is not totally healthy. It's for someone who has a serious addiction that's hurting their lives. A serious psychological issue, not just 'you could stand to lose some weight'. Interventions happen all the time with alcoholics but not very often with people who are overweight because those are fundamentally different issues (in most cases - obviously sometimes people can be compulsive overeaters and these are basically really complex issues that we're discussing in a really simple way but still).

And at the end of the day, it's someone's own life to live, and if they want to eat a lot instead of being a perfect fit machine, even if that's not the best thing for their long-term health, that's their fucking decision. Step off and stop telling them how to live their lives like you know better than them, like you're so much smarter than them, like you're so much superior to them. Shit.

What the anons above me said, AND:

Your comment is a false equivalence. Interventions happen for people who are alcoholics and drug addicts because yes, those things are health issues, but they are ALSO issues that can seriously impact their lives and the lives of those around them in a multitude of other ways: job loss, theft or misappropriation of family funds, damaged relationships, abuse, trouble with the law, etc. Alcohol and/or narcotic addiction is a totally different animal than nicotine addiction or "eat[ing] far more than is healthy" (because we totes know exactly how much fat people eat, amirite).

This.

It's their own goddamned business. Especially if they are an adult that has the right to do with their body what they please.

Friends who constantly try to play the parent are annoying.
Some of us know full well the effects of what we're doing. We just don't give a shit.

Edited 2013-09-14 01:00 (UTC)

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