[ SECRET POST #2446 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2446 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]




















04. [WARNING for gore, blood, etc]

[How To Train Your Dragon]


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05. [WARNING for child abuse]



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06. [WARNING for rape]



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08. [WARNING for torture]

[Fall Out Boy's "The Phoenix"]


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09. [WARNING for underage]

[pokemon conquest]


















Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Umm I don't feel like i'm walking on eggshells. I just don't act like a dick, it's not that hard.

[nyxelestia]

For you. Not that hard for you.

If you haven't grown up in this kind of situation, then it can be quite difficult for anyone to realize when something completely innocuous to them will be extremely offensive to someone else - and that's just when dealing with social justice things, where there is at least some semblance of universal standards. When it comes to triggers, it's nearly impossible to know what will or won't set someone else off, which leads to, well, this egg-shell situation.

[thene]

The best safe space I've ever used relied on heavy moderation. Your posts had to be cut and you had to itemise in detail what was under the cut, and if you didn't (or if you missed something), the mods would tell you what warnings you had to add. You then had an hour to do so or the post would be deleted and then reposted by a mod with the correct warnings and tags attacked. This system works very well, and it allows everyone to say whatever they need to while keeping other members safe. But obviously it requires a lot of vigilance and moderator attention - the internet as a whole does not function like this, and doesn't want to.

Which is kinda what it comes down to, for me. We don't WANT everywhere to be a safe space where conversation is that laborious. Doing safe space right, without eggshells, is a massive effort. It is VERY distinct from either normal fandom spaces or real-world spaces, definitely a refuge rather than an alternative to reality. Most places that claim to be safe space aren't, imx.

[nyxelestia]

In all honesty, I have yet to really find this mythical safe space everyone keeps talking about. I am so very fortunate that I have a real life safe space - namely that I can curl up in my bed and expect my privacy to be respected about 90% of the time. I feel so, so sorry for anyone who doesn't have a real life safe space and is stuck looking to fandom for an online substitute.

[thene]

'Safe space' was originally a therapeutic concept. You can't be in therapy forever, and most people do not need to be in therapy most of the time. I wish we had a different term for what fandom wants safe space to be - 'comfortable space', maybe?