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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-09-13 07:00 pm

[ SECRET POST #2446 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2446 ⌋

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[How To Train Your Dragon]


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[Fall Out Boy's "The Phoenix"]


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(Anonymous) 2013-09-14 07:26 am (UTC)(link)
ayrt

I think that support network thing you mentioned might be it D: I don't really have a family back up, so I'm hella paranoid about always having a savings, no matter how small, for emergencies. Because that can guarantee me a room somewhere. But my friend has a family who...they paid like her rent for a year and stuff? she worked because she wanted work experience and not because she had to?

still very miffed about the time she got upset and accused me of being rich. It was like $3k and I didn't even have a job yet (moved to a different state, the $3k was 2 years worth of savings to tide me over until I got a new job D: and also none of her business because I was stressed as fuck it would run out! that's like 2 months rent)

[personal profile] anonymouslyyours 2013-09-14 07:57 am (UTC)(link)
What? The girl whose family paid a year's rent accused you of being somehow unfairly advantaged. >:(

I'll agree having/not having a safety net definitely plays its role in someone's financial choices.

I had a roommate who frequently needed her aunt to cover her portion of the rent and kept insinuating I must be doing something illegal to "always have as much money" as I had to pay all my bills, buy real food, and save a little. I literally had to sit her down and show her how every tiny moment where she thought "Oh it's only twenty bucks!" added up. I had to remind her I didn't do things like see movies in theatre, eat out regularly, go out for drinks, get manicures or professional hair cuts, shop for clothing other than at thrift shops when necessary, etc. I actually showed her that she was spending almost three bucks on coffee
every morning and then almost two bucks on a name brand soda on EACH of her breaks every day. Not to mention the snacks and candy she'd pick up with them. I explained how thought of all those little "nothings" as luxuries and made sacrifices for what I really wanted. I showed her how much effort went into my budgeting but even after all that she admitted it made a difference but still thought it didn't explain enough of my money. :/

I think sometimes a lot of it had to do with the fact she always used a debit card instead of cash. I never use a debit card except for large or online purchases and I think that actually watching the money flow out of your wallet makes you realize how quickly it's going on small purchases. But she kind of always was one of those '$100 is not much money when it's for me', 'OMG $100 is so much money when you have it!' kind of people.

(Anonymous) 2013-09-14 09:57 am (UTC)(link)
There are a few manage-your-money reality shows here in Canada that always begin with the financial consultant going over the books and pointing out how much, in an average month, the people on the show just waste. It's stunning, and it's made me rethink my own impulse purchases! Sometimes the problem people have is simply "not enough income for ordinary expenses," but most of the time the show depicts people who *should* have enough to live on, but have bad habits/make poor choices. Or very young people whose income dictates living thriftily, but whose families indulge them, which creates bad habits and a feeling of being owed things they don't need and can't afford.

My parents bailed me out of a scary financial scrape and also helped me tremendously when I went back to school to change careers. I still feel a little guilty about it, but they won't let me pay them back. So now I just make sure I live like an adult, and if someone in the family needs money now, I do what I can to offer help *so my parents don't do as much.* I am very, very grateful for times I had help, but I tried not to treat that as owed to me.
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[personal profile] insanenoodlyguy 2013-09-14 06:38 pm (UTC)(link)
Similar deal though one more my fault. I made some dumb decisions in early college and was basically bleeding money (though there was a hidden charge the atm never told me about but that was only a tiny part of it really)

I got a bailout. Once. My parents are very kind. But I also knew that could never, ever happen again cause holy shit how embarrassing. It was good for me though. I've happily reached the point I can help them outsometimes. They'd never let me pay it back directly, but in other ways I do what I can.