[ SECRET POST #2450 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2450 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.


__________________________________________________



09.


__________________________________________________



10.


__________________________________________________
















Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 031 secrets from Secret Submission Post #350.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

OP

[(Anonymous)]

I do have mental health concerns.

I have voiced this to my parents and asked about getting help.

I was told that it would hurt my sisters and be selfish. For fucking getting the help I want and need.

Then i was told "no what you need is a job". or "you'll feel better when you get a job" . I had a job less than six months ago, I still felt depressed and directionless. I have a low sense of self worth. Having a job didn't change anything except the nagging was about turning over HALF my biweekly pay every month or else. My life was going nowhere.


I want help. I need help. I don't need ANOTHER person telling me to shut up and do what I'm told and I'll be magically happy. It doesn't work.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

You don't have to like working. It doesn't have to give you direction or make you happy. It does, however, show you have some signs of independence and are even a tiny bit self-capable. How old are you, OP, and what exactly do you do all day? If you work, you can afford the therapy or whatever it is you need to get your life in order - that, or check your insurance. Considering you're an adult, and what, early twenties at youngest? Stop thinking of supporting yourself as your parents' demand. You should want to support yourself - especially if the atmosphere with your parents is not great.

Finding a job can be tough, how picky are you being at looking? Usually restaurants, especially fast food, go through employees quickly, and any job is better than no job.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

I know, but I"m just providing an example why "get a job you'll feel better" is faulty. I want a job.

I'm 23 going on 24. I stay home all day looking for jobs an working on stuff to keep my stress down, I babysit my sister, keep an eye on the dogs and stuff.

I want to support myself I just want to stop getting lectures about how i'm freeloading.

Especially when only three years ago they were all "here let us help you" "No you can just forget about driving let us drive you places, you can't drive ever." I have a lot of stipulations on places I'm allowed to app. NO gas stations. Nowhere ten miles away or more."

I know I sound like a brat for wanting to go to a mental hospital. I just want ACTUAL counseling not pouring my heart out to someone who turns around and tells me I just "blame her for everything" .

da

[(Anonymous)]

Why won't they let you drive? Is it a health thing or they have control issues?

If they wanted to see you get a job so bad, they wouldn't place so many stipulations on where you can apply. Why are gas stations out of the question?

I'm just curious.

Re: da

[(Anonymous)]

whoops. I saw below after posting this that you haven't learned yet how to drive. Your parents sound kind of contradictory - they want you to become more independent but they talk you out of driving. ? Is public transit an option (for getting to a workplace)? Or are they limiting where you can apply because they'd have to drive you?

The gas station thing still confuses me though.

Re: da

[(Anonymous)]

OP's parents seem obsessed with the image they present--they've told OP that checking herself into a psychiatric hospital will "hurt the family," they admonish her that "people will talk" about her if they think she's odd, and they get on her case for showing too much ankle. So I wonder if they think working in a gas station isn't genteel--that it's something people of their social class don't do.