[ SECRET POST #2454 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2454 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[fscom]

03. http://i43.tinypic.com/2s81n5k.jpg

[forgottenjester]

That... sucks. You know what they say though. Power corrupts. It sounds stupid but it's sadly true.

I hope you find better and new friends.

[(Anonymous)]

Just a thought, but they could be overwhelmed and not have the time to reply anymore. And when they do they now keep it short and to the point, which could easily come off as obnoxious.

Also, saying it's like they're doing you a favor sounds more like you're projecting your insecurities. Unless they say something like "Oh I suppose I will take the time to answer you even though you're not deserving," I really can't think of what would constitute someone acting like they're doing you a favor when they reply to you.

[(Anonymous)]

this

if she's co-modding many sites at a time, she's probably inundated in the inbox to the point that she has to prioritize

it happens

[(Anonymous)]

MTE. I've seen this happen to a lot of my fandom friends who take on too much in either fandom or RL.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this is what I'm getting.

Heck, I don't even have the added responsibilities of modding things, just the general stuff that comes along with LIFE, and I'm TERRIBLE at replying and commenting. I don't think I'm above it, it's just hard for me to sit down and DO.

[(Anonymous)]

+1 My thoughts exactly!

...I wonder if this is how I come off as...

[nyxelestia]

I'm not even that packed in terms of fandom life, I just have a very busy real life schedule at times, and fandom takes a backseat to most of that. If I were to try and mod even one community, let alone several, I would get overwhelmed.

My default verbal tendency is to be very curt and laconic when it comes to messaging people unless it's about a specific topic we're actively discussing. I don't do small talk, like, ever. The way I handle this is to write a message as needed, then go back and add in a few more emotional lines and such here and there to compensate for it. But even that, I only learned to do after a few hard lessons reminding me just how much of our communication is lost when we type things out on the Internet.

Maybe, OP, you could try just sending them a message letting them know how you feel, and see what they say? There is a very good chance that that really are just that busy, and the curtness is just them forgetting to add emotional compensation lines or not realizing that they need it in the first place.

Secret 3 - Fandom friendship

[transcriptanon]

[Picture is black text over a green background.

I have a fandom friend, she used to be such a sweet person, but then she started co-mudding a bunch of communities and fests and changed.

Now she thinks she's too important and stopped replying messages and comments and when she does, it's like she's doing you a favor and always obnoxious.

It makes me sad because she was really fun to be around. Now I just avoid her and roll my eyes when I see her posts.

[queerwolf]

Or she's now really busy and is coming off that way when she doesn't mean to.