[ SECRET POST #2459 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2459 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, look at all the pro-disclosure assholes above me. How about not making assumptions about what people have in their pants because guess what, you never actually know.

[(Anonymous)]

If you were a straight woman and saw what you perceived to be a straight, cis man at a club, I would at least expect some kind of disclosure before you agree to go home with them and discover he was actually a pre-op trans man with a vagina?

[(Anonymous)]

I assume people who look male have penises, and people who look female have vaginas. 99% of the time, that assumption is correct.

Or would you prefer we preface all possible one night stands with "So...you do in fact have a penis, right?"

[(Anonymous)]

I don't give a fuck what anybody has in your pants, right up until we're mutually making plans to have sex, and then? Yeah, I'd want to be told what to expect if it's something my partner knows most people aren't expecting. Both for my sake AND so that I don't hurt the other person by being shocked or something.

This doesn't mean I'm going to reject every person who isn't cis, because I'm not. But pro-disclosure sometime before sex? Uh, yeah, this is a good idea.

[(Anonymous)]

Um, no. Not fair. Even remotely. Would you shame a gay man like this if he was about to have sex with a female-bodied, male-presenting transman who was put off by running into a vagina? Sexual preferences are what they are - they may be rooted in some problematic things, but sexual orientation is NOT JUST ABOUT GENDER - it's about specific biological sex, as well. I would most likely not be put off by finding out that someone is not physically the same sex as they are presenting outwardly, but plenty of straight and homosexual people WOULD be. And I know plenty of very open-minded bi and queer people who would need a minute to wrap their heads around it. Needing time to adjust your perceptions and your assumptions is not inherently a bad thing - often it can be a very good thing.

If someone is making a conscious choice to have sex with someone of what they think is a certain gender, only to have it sprung on them just prior to sex that they are a different gender, it is NOT FAIR to expect them to be unconditionally sexually attracted to that. Everybody should have the chance to fully consent to whatever sexual acts they're about to get into WITHOUT the pressure of iminent nudity. If they decide that they need some time, or are not turned on by that, it majorly sucks, and it COULD be because they're transphobic, or it could just be that they were thrown into a sexual situation for which they were not prepared.

[(Anonymous)]

+1 to all of this. I am a straight woman; I need a penis in my sex to get aroused. Vaginas just don't do it for me, and believe me, it's not for lack of trying. I just have no sexual attraction to them whatsoever.

If I were to be getting down and dirty with what I thought was a cis guy only to find out that he was a pre-op transman? I don't think I could have sex with him simply because I am not sexually attracted to vaginas, even if I have an emotional attachment to the person. It has nothing to do with the person and everything to do with the fact that my body just isn't turned on by that particular type of genitalia.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh for godssake. People are not "assholes" because of their sexual response. I don't want to get up close and personal with a vagina. I don't make assumptions about who has one, and you never know for 100% certain, so what's the issue with being clear?