[ SECRET POST #2462 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2462 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Seconding this. My parents understand perfectly, but when I was in high school I told one of my best friends about fandom and she flipped out, saying I was putting myself in danger, and this friend was NOT someone who played it safe in the "real world" by any stretch.

[nyxelestia]

I was doing some pretty sexual roleplaying when I was about 13-14, and that ended up in this (heavily paraphrased) exchange with a friend of mine when I mentioned it:

Me: *finishes explaining roleplay, including the sexual aspects of it*

My friend: "Oh my god, that's dangerous! You're having sex with an Internet stranger!"

Me: "No, I'm not, we're pretending to have sex by talking about it."

My friend: "But what if he stalks you down and rapes you? It's dangerous!"

Me: "...and what if someone from school does the same thing? Digital sex is a lot safer than real sex, I can't get STDs or pregnant. And anyone could track me down and kidnap me if they wanted, but everyone here knows my name and where I go to school and what city I live in. This guy doesn't. And he's a hell of a lot nicer than most of the guys we know."

This sort of thing went back and forth for a while. I could understand why someone might be concerned about a 14-year-old getting up to something sexual in a more general sense, but I still don't understand why a 14-year-old having online-only sexual activity is somehow supposed to be worse than a 14-year-old having actual sex with another teenager or otherwise RL person.

By the same token, I recently met one of my online friends for the first time in RL, but we'd known each other for years. Me, her, and another online friend spent weeks travelling together, which is a lot more than I have ever done with any of my RL friends. And it was great! But even if we'd never met in RL, I'd still call her one of my closest friends.