[ SECRET POST #2471 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2471 ⌋

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Comments

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[khronos_keeper]

How strange it seems like 7 tends to be an influential age for girls.

It was for me. I got snubbed by one of my boy cousins (he didn't want to hang out with me, he wanted to hang out with my older brother), and I remember thinking very clearly at that time that I was going to try to behave more like a boy so that I would never get dismissed by anyone again.

So yeah, even by 7 I could recognize social gender roles, and which one got taken "more seriously". I grew up in a small, rural village, so gender stereotypes are really really strongly reinforced in general, so I could see it happening all around me.

Thankfully, I was never put down for being more boyish, or having boyish interests. It was thought of as a positive thing, to have a girl who didn't care about her clothes getting dirty, getting in danger, and didn't mind the boy's rough language. I had a lot of guy friends in high school.

I guess it became even more of a "thing" when I decided I wanted to join the military, in my early 20s. I was well accepted by the other male recruits because I didn't act like "a girl" (i.e. giggling, flipping hair, rolling eyes, talking on the cellphone). So yeah, I find that blurring gender boundaries has always been advantageous for me.

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[diet_poison]

I can see why it's worked out that way for you, and I admit it's worked to my advantage before as well, but that setup still really bothers me. As a whole society still sees masculine = desirable and feminine = less, and I think that's a big problem.

Not saying you don't realize this, but I'm not sure based on your comment.

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[khronos_keeper]

Oh I definitely know. And being identified as a girl has also worked against me in so many ways, but I just didn't feel like bringing it all up.

Trust me, it pisses me off more than I can verbalize that female=weak/bad/less. I was just explaining how gender became a thing for me and how I adapted based on societal responses.

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[diet_poison]

Gotcha :)