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I think fandom people are way too quick to claim asexuality. Pretty much every Tumblr sidebar reads 'Bi-romantic, homosocial, ace'. I think a bunch of people WANT to be 'ace' because it's more unique and unusual and I just don't buy it most of the time.

Then don't? You believing or not believing doesn't really matter or affect them or you. Whatever, really.

But. Why do you care. Why would any bystander care. I mean, some random person says they're a demihomoromanticsexual snowflake, whatever, so long as I'm not the one who has draw up a diagram just to figure out how to fuck them.

I'm ace and... I kinda feel the same way, honestly. After I came out as ace, suddenly like five of my friends declared they were also asexual, and although I can believe it in a couple of them (we tended to agree on certain stuff, hahah)... I have been a little skeptical about some of the others, and think they may have fallen into the celibacy = asexuality mistake.

But then I have people I've known for years who, because I am a Christian and also in a same-sex relationship, have apparently said behind my back that I'm just saying I'm an asexual because I'm afraid I'll go to hell if I'm a lesbian. *rolls eyes* So I'm pretty sure that what other people think about someone else's declared sexuality really doesn't matter, and what other people declare as their sexuality really shouldn't matter to anyone except someone who may (or may not) be a potential sex partner.

So in summary, oh well. Not my problem.

I obviously don't know your friends, but maybe they came out after because they were encouraged by your coming out? You know, felt safer after you broke the silence, so to speak. It's pretty common.

Yeah, it's possible, just it seems kind of unlikely in ALL of their cases. Statistically and anecdotally speaking.

But then again, through most of my early online life I kept winding up in communities made up mostly of LGBT folks and was like "wtf, how does this happen when I'm straight?" only to finally realize that I wasn't straight, so it happens. XD

I don't know. I was really confused as a teen, and went by 'celibate'. It never felt right, though, because celibacy is a chose you make, and I never had anything to abstain from, you know? The second I found out about Asexuality, I identified with it right away, since it was 100% what I had been feeling all of my life.

Funny you should mention that - I went by "celibate" too because I didn't know about asexuality, and I thought I was just like everyone else and they were just exaggerating about how haaaaaaaard it was to not have sex, oh noes, so terrible and difficult! Also exaggerating about "everyone masturbates, and does so regularly". So I thought it fit me just fine.

Until in my mid-20s I finally realized they weren't exaggerating and went "WTF" at myself until I happened across AVEN.

Why...do you care? So what if they are or not? Unless they're your SO, or complaining to you personally a bunch, does it matter what they say they are, sexuality-wise?

I don't really care what people label themselves sexuality-wise. I'm more surprised how many people have it listed on their side bar.

People put a lot of weird shit in their sidebar.

Yea, that surprised me too when I first discovered tumblr.

Given the SJ and apparent privilege checkin' atmosphere there, I'm not. I did read an interesting entry that might somewhat relate though. It's on people abusing the owning of privilege to dismiss opinions, and the oppression olympics training some people do to basically fit in as a minority of something (including by association):
http://andrea366.wordpress.com/2013/08/14/the-problem-with-privilege-by-andrea-smith/

I have no idea if they are but I honestly don't care either. If people want to label themselves that's fine, and I'm not going to wonder or worry about if their sexuality fits the textbook definition of that sexuality. It doesn't concern me either way.

Doesn't matter what you want to buy. You not buying it doesn't change their identity.

But really why does it matter? I've never understood people who get upset about stuff like this. It effects your life in no actual way. What harm is it to let people ID in whatever way they want to?

Also, you do realize that your reaction is not original. In fact it's pretty normal. A lot of people "don't believe in" asexuality.

It's the same as with all the personality disorders/mental illnesses and the people who claim to be trans/genderqueer/non-binary - some things have this weird feel of being a fad to get SJ brownie points. The shitty thing is: People who do this for attention hurt the people who are actually in those situations. Problem: How do I know who the fakers and who the real deals are? Question: I don't.
But since I don't know the people who make those claims in person, nor will I ever know them in person, nor will I remember them 5 minutes after I've been to their tumblr, I have chosen not to care. I don't care about how people choose to label themselves in RL either, so whatever.

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well aren't you a special snowflake

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