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I suppose they are when you look at it that way but there are different levels, I guess. I mean, when LGBT people are being denied marriage rights and the right to adopt and being discriminated against in jobs and housing etc. not to mention "corrective rape" and violent hate crimes against them, being told you're sick and you need therapy is mild in comparison. Of course, I've heard/read about asexuals also experiencing all the aforementioned things but I don't have any actual evidence, at least not offhand, that it actually happened. But as for the other things, I've seen gay people tell asexuals that there's something wrong with them and they're only asexual because they haven't met the right person and no one think there's anything wrong with it while if someone told a gay person that there was something wrong with them and they were only gay because they haven't met the right person (of the opposite sex) no one (at least no one that's considered to be a decent person) would think that was ok.

I guess in a way it's kind of similar to bisexuals? A bisexual person could be in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex and "pass for straight" while an asexual person would probably be assumed to be straight if they're single, so neither of them would have to deal with what someone in a same sex relationship would. And both of them get some people thinking they're in denial and not believing they actually exist.

So I think it just kind of depends. In some ways, I think there's a double standard in that people say things to asexual people that if they were to say them to gay people it absolutely would not be accepted. But gay people have to deal with harassment from other groups of people where asexuals aren't even on their radar at all. Historically it's not even a fucking question that LGBT people had it far, far worse but it seems we're getting to a point where most people (and I realize it depends greatly on where you live) are accepting of gay people but not a lot are of asexuals. I'm not saying asexuals have it worse but I don't think it's completely ridiculous to suggest that they go through at least some of the same things LGBT people do.

I feel like I'm talking in circles so I'm gonna shut up now but hopefully that made some sense.

[Disclaimer: I'm not gay or asexual but I have several friends that are gay and a few who are asexual so I can see both sides.]

Considering how much grief virgins get at the student health clinic, regardless of orientation, I think that a- and bisexuals get a lot more grief than you give them credit for. And I suspect that "always a bachelor" is probably as big an impediment as "sleeps with same gender" to marriage and adoptions. And by the way? Rape isn't just something that gays have to deal with, corrective or otherwise. And anyone can "pass", yes even gay people, and yes, I've known a few. And frankly, it sounds like your saintly gays are doing enough harassing of a- & bisexuals for everyone.

Honestly, this attempt to justify quantifying others' suffering makes my skin crawl. Suffering is suffering, regardless of who is doing the suffering and who is doing the hurting. I can and will judge your gay friends for tormenting an a- or bisexual just as harshly as I'd judge someone who tormented them because I stand by my statement: bad behavior is bad behavior, regardless of the sex, color, or orientation of the person doing it.

And if you really feel this strong of an impetus to do complicated mental gymnastics to excuse bashing by gay people, then I respectfully suggest that you reconsider some of your personal relationships. Because whoever you're making the excuse for isn't justified. They're as poorly behaved and as to blame for their behavior as anyone else.

ayrt

I'm sorry. I was trying to avoid offending one group of people and ended up offending another and I truly did not mean to.

Anytime I've ever suggested that asexuals go through just as much shit as gay people I've had gay people saying saying that how dare I suggest such a thing because asexuals don't have it hard and only they do and I was horrible for saying they did. I was trying to avoid that but in doing so I minimized what asexuals go through which I honestly didn't intend to do.

But to be completely honest, yes, I do think it's the same thing, and it's awful in either case. Hell, even though I'm straight, I'm single at the moment and have gotten some of the same shit from people about how I must find a husband and have babies because it's just not right to not be in a relationship.

I really am sorry that it came across like I was justifying anyone's bad behavior. It's equally bad when straight people do it to gay or bi people and when gay or bi (or straight) people do it to asexuals. Basically I wish everyone would just stop harassing other people about who they want to have sex/relationships with.

AYART

It's okay! I can totally see where you ended up now. I really, really loathe the current race to win the Oppression Olympics because I genuinely believe that there's always someone who has it worse. And I hate with the fiery power of ten thousand exploding suns the current trend of yelling at, dismissing, or shaming people who don't agree with your perspective.

You may not be gay but you still have a right to an opinion on anything you'd care to weigh in on. And they're horrible for being so inflexible and self-absorbed.

*grins* Don't worry. I'm right there with you in the 'WHERE ARE YOUR HUSBAND AND BABIES?!' boat.

No worries. Sometimes it just takes talking things over with complete strangers to sort out how you want a thought to lie. I have a couple of unpopular opinions that I might eventually post to one of these threads for that very purpose.

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