[ SECRET POST #2477 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2477 ⌋

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[caecilia]

I mean...it's hard to say without reading it, but schmoopy fanfic is hardly ever like real relationships, no matter the genders involved. And every relationship is different so I don't know if you could really "get it wrong", if you're trying as hard as you can to be in character. Anyway my advice about befriending him and reading up on lgbt history and issues still stands.

IRL the kinds of fetishization I've seen are mainly straight women who think that all gay guys will be their best friends and go shopping with them. They are a "safe" person they can talk to about their feelings--but they usually don't want to hear about the dude's boy troubles, and if he says anything at all about his personal life he's "shoving it in their face". OR they are really overly invested in it and ask him personal questions about his sex life, to the point of harassment.

I don't think the fact that you read unrealistic fanfic alone is fetishization of real people, but I think a lot of people confuse their fantasies with reality. And I know there are girls in fandom who see gay guys together and think it's totally cool to basically treat them like fanfic characters. Pay attention to your own behavior and fix the things that need it.

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Okay, thanks. He does seem pretty cool so maybe I'll talk to him and make friends like you said. :)