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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-10-19 03:42 pm

[ SECRET POST #2482 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2482 ⌋

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Re: I'm really curious about something

(Anonymous) 2013-10-20 12:18 am (UTC)(link)
Tbh, for all that cheating tends to be linked to sex, it's really more about disrespecting boundaries that both parties agreed to within the relationship. So, if it was expected to be monogamous? Then sleeping around is cheating, but if that was something both parties agreed they didn't want, then sleeping around wouldn't be cheating.

In fiction, I think people get upset over it either because past experiences, or because it hurts a character - usually involving character[s] they relate to.

Re: I'm really curious about something

(Anonymous) 2013-10-20 07:46 am (UTC)(link)
I mostly get upset over it because there's often a moral dissonance where I'm supposed to accept this major lying and violating of boundaries as an ok thing because ~heat of the moment~, which is an excuse that just really doesn't fly any more after the age of 15 or so.

(Anonymous) 2013-10-20 03:01 pm (UTC)(link)
In fiction, I just think it's a lazy way to interject drama and the consequences are very trite, because the perpetrator always expects to be forgiven and considers it deeply unfair when they're not. So your first paragraph is correct, but it's not necessarily about how the character who's been cheated on feels.

(Anonymous) 2013-10-20 06:14 pm (UTC)(link)
Right? This is happening right now on one of my shows and it just pisses me off. I was a big fan of the cheater pre-cheating incident, and not such a fan of her wife, and I'm pretty angry that they made me sympathetic to the character I previously didn't like while making me lose any respect for a character I did like.