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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-10-26 03:38 pm

[ SECRET POST #2489 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2489 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2013-10-26 08:47 pm (UTC)(link)
So what happens when you find the perfect bad mother character? What happens then? What's the plan? It sounds like you've been hunting for a while. Do you show it to your mother? Because sadly you can't plan out her reaction. She might see something, might not. And I worry you're putting way too much hope in the power her response will have on you. Let's say, best case scenario, you find the fictional doppelganger of your mother. She watches the movie. She comes to you in tears, "I should have been a better mother. I'm so sorry." she lists all of her faults, all of the things she could have changed about herself, cries and says she wishes she could take it all back. Then what? You... hug it out? 32 years of grudges and wishes are suddenly okay? She becomes an entirely different person overnight, you no longer resent your childhood?

It's healthier for you to give this up. If your mother has bad behavior NOW, call her on it when you can. But you can't change what already happened and the victory of making her see it your way will be short-lived and pointless. It might feel like this huge hurdle you have to get past, but you don't. Believe me.