[ SECRET POST #2489 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2489 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

My mom always treated me like a miniature adult and expected me to understand and react to things emotionally and intellectually like an adult. Tiny me would go to her feeling sad about something or wanting comfort and she would say, "okay, honey, what would you like me to do about it? Tell me what you want from me." Intended in the most sympathetic way possible but she never understood that sometimes kids just need hugs and sympathy and to be told things are okay, which I never got. Only practical offers to resolve problems. Do I need money? Do I need things? Do I need assistance? No? What do you want from me?

We've never really had a close relationship because she'd treat me like an adult then be surprised and confused and hurt when I acted like one (meaning independent, non-affectionate, never going to her with my problems because shit, I'm 8 years old, I don't KNOW what I want from you), instead of a normal loving little kid.

She's a good person who tried her best and I can acknowledge that. She was far from abusive. But I can acknowledge at the same time that she wasn't very good at being a parent or filling a parental role, and even though I try to explain, she still doesn't understand why we turned out the way we did instead of all the normal, affectionate, loving mother-child interactions that she sees amongst all her friends with children. If I could find a movie or something about a situation like ours that I could have her sit down and watch to maybe help her understand, I'd definitely ask her to give it a shot. I've never been able to find anything, though.

[(Anonymous)]

^ tl:dr: Me too, OP.

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[(Anonymous)]

even though I try to explain, she still doesn't understand why we turned out the way we did... if I could find a movie or something about a situation like ours... to maybe help her understand, I'd definitely ask her to give it a shot

YES, THANK YOU. That is what I meant. In our relationship she was the emotionally distant one, but I don't hate her for being bad at parenting. I want to show her why and how because she just doesn't understand what happened, not out of decades of vengeful anger or whatever everybody else thinks.

DA

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah snap judgments are how we all stay entertained! ... and is part of why some of my secrets end up TL;DR - I try to make sure nothing is misunderstood. XD

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Have you watched much Big Bang Theory? Leonard's mother on there is the epitome of emotionally distant.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

This was my first thought as well. (My own parents just never grew up. No, this is not as awesome as it sounds, in fact it sucks, because after decades of raising my own family, I now have zero desire to start one. Which has its own set of problems.)