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⌈ Secret Post #2489 ⌋

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[nyxelestia]

The reason why I say "ironic coming from me" is because a lot of Aspies in my life, as well as my mother (a childcare specialist and teacher, so somewhat taught to look for these things) have all suggested I have Asperger's. It's mostly for physical things (apparently certain touch and sight problems I have are extremely prevalent among Aspies/a part of Asperger's...? as well as other issues...), but still suggested quite frequently.

Supreme twist of irony to me is that most of the Aspies I know are not at all assholes or have most of the behavior 'issues' that assburgers try to play the Aspie card on, because they have worked hard to get RID of those behavior tics and trained themselves out of them.

Personally, I think the behavioral tics that my friends like to attribute to potential Asperger's, I would rather attribute to a lot of elements of my childhood/upbringing. And have Asperger's isn't going to help me with the physical side. So why bother going through the hassle of trying to diagnose it? I never talk about it except for telling people off when suggesting I have it, but it does make me feel awkward for calling out other people for saying they have Asperger's or suspecting it but not getting it diagnosed.

I don't need to use the convenient name given to certain traits I have as an excuse for being me.

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[pantswarrior]

That is pretty much exactly how it works in my case. My brother was suspected of having it, my mom had never heard of it, and when they explained it to her, she basically went "...omg that totally explains [pantswarrior]!" And then my brother was diagnosed, and then she was diagnosed too. And she suggested I should go see a doctor, and I'm like "...What would be the point?"

I am how I am. Everyone has their weak points, and mine happen to line up with Asperger's pretty neatly, but I'd been living with them for 25 years at that point without thinking of them that way, and I'd developed various coping mechanisms to deal with the worst of it. Far as I'm concerned, I have a strong chance of being ASD, but changing the name for it doesn't change anything but the name for it.

Also, the way my mom treated my brother after he was diagnosed was pretty disgusting. Basically started treating him like a baby and attributing EVERYTHING to Asperger's. Like she wanted him to keep a diary and labeled it "Diary of an Asperger's". And darned if I want her or anyone else to think of me as "an Asperger's" rather than just socially inept, easily-over-stimulated, eccentric me.

Apparently I needed to vent about this. Sorry if it was inappropriate. :/

[nyxelestia]

Don't worry, people vent here!

And I totally understand. The reason why I don't want to risk my family finding out about the Asperger's is because half the family kind of "want" me to have it in a...very discouraging "well that explains a lot" way, and the others would just turn it into a blame game of some kind. It's kind of a lose-lose whether I do or don't have it, and if I do have it, well...I'm going into politics, and I'm going to have the deck stacked against me enough as it is, I don't need this following me around too.

When people tell me I have Asperger's, I'm about 90% sure I don't, and the only reason that 10% exists is because the Asperger's suspicions came up when I was in high school. I went and looked up online resources, read some books, took the advice and tips and stuff offered in them and applied them to myself and they worked fantastically well. I attribute a huge part of my academic turnaround in highschool to that little self-help streak, but not enough to attribute more than 10% credence to my friend's and mother's suspicions.

I coped well enough on my own for the last two decades, why turn it into a medical condition that will get me little help at this stage in my life and may be detrimental to my future? -_-

It sucks to hear what your mother turned it into, and you probably are better off for not getting it medically checked out.

[pkbitchgirl]

My mother started treating me like a child again as soon as I was diagnosed at 25.

The day after I was diagnosed I snapped at her over something and she said in a snide tone "that's a part of it". Uh, no it's not, it's me snapping at you because you're being a pain in the arse as fucking usual.

If she pisses me off I tell her to fuck off