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⌈ Secret Post #2489 ⌋

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[nyxelestia]

I'm not really trying to divide them, though I can see where that impression comes from looking back at my posts. And I can see what you mean by different experiences - I'm at community college, so the kind of Aspies I meet are much higher-functioning. People at that age need to have developed some functionality and have had plenty of time to gather some amount of coping skills. And as I've said several times, there are very likely people who actually have undiagnosed Asperger's and who are total assholes and using it as an excuse - but there are, at least in the environment I encounter this in, far more people who decide enough of their personality aligns with Asperger's to claim it just as a tool rather than an actual condition. I'm not trying to say the kind of people you are thinking of don't exist, they absolutely do - they just aren't the majority, or at least are so unlikely to be the majority for me to be able to let someone's bad behavior slide.

This is especially obvious when I hang out in a social group with lots of diagnosed Aspies in it. It becomes rather glaringly obvious that there is a difference between people who struggle in many or all areas of social interaction, versus those who are functioning just fine except for when they occasionally need to 'pull the Aspie card'.

And you have mentioned that this is a hot-button issue for you in one direction. It is a hot-button issue for me in the other direction, not because of my own problems, but because I'm hearing some of the diagnosed Aspies talk about how they are embarrassed to admit they have this problem outside of our social group, in large part because of the assholes who claim a serious neurological realignment to excuse their misbehavior. I can't take people who function in most areas of their life just fine, then only ever 'admit' they have Asperger's after some truly dickish behavior and only as an excuse to never change or even try to get better, when I'm friends with many people who actually have Asperger's who do their absolute best not to talk about or it admit it outside of this group. There are many reasons why someone might perhaps be embarrassed about having mild autism, but one of those reasons should not be people who are lying about it for their own immaturity and amusement.