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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2013-10-26 03:38 pm

[ SECRET POST #2489 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2489 ⌋

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[personal profile] manifold 2013-10-30 12:30 am (UTC)(link)
Just want to second (fourth?) that you don't have to be "polite" about it. Even if it's something "innocent" like not knowing not to hug strangers—if you're clear and direct about your boundaries and protecting them and what the fuck you have a problem with, that's providing good information about What Not To Do. Trying to drop hints to someone who legit does not understand doesn't help them understand; it just confuses the fuck out of them, if they notice the hints at all, because hints require people to KNOW first that it's not okay.

tl;dr Be rude. Even if it's awkward, it's better for you and them.

Also, if instead of going "OH FUCK SORRY" and backing off, that person has a tantrum over you asserting your boundaries, all bets are off. Get the fuck away from them. Call security if you need to. That is Not Okay.