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⌈ Secret Post #2492 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Money Woes

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, I see, so this was more her either being vindictive, or trying to teach you a "lesson", not a survival situation.

It does suck when a parental figure is willfully hurtful and misunderstanding of your situation, and I'm sorry she's being like this to you.

At least for cutting down moving around-- maybe walking more places, rather than taking transportation? If any of the transportation costs are geared toward leisure pursuits, like visiting clothes or bookstores maybe put them off until you have a paycheck?

While I realize mental health is very important, can you maybe do one visit a week, rather than 3? Especially if you'll be using that money to get to work, the money that you'll need to help pay for future visits. Or can you make alternative arrangements with your therapist?

Or, on a final note, can you ask your mother or siblings to help bolster the cost of transportation to work? I know it's probably not an ideal choice, but it's kind of necessary.

Re: Money Woes

[lynx]

Yup. It's all about "teaching me a lesson", and has nothing to do with survival. She's well-off and doesn't need that money.

To not bore you with our life story: Spanning 20 years, we went from low-class "living with government aid" to upper-midclass; because both my mom and my dad (minimal wage workers at the time) managed to get scholarships for university, worked their asses off, and were damn lucky. But there's a thing: Being "formerly piss-poor" means people have a certain mindset when it comes to money. Mom's quite stingy and has a colorful array of neurosis related to how she was brought up. Even I try to not make any unnecessary spending, because I remember how things were when I was a kid. I seldomly visit my friends, I don't ever buy clothes (I use what's given to me as a gift), and same thing with books (my greatest pain, because I love books). Actually the only thing for myself I consistently spend on, is food, because I like good food and ngl, being a vegetarian can be quite boring if you don't do something of an effort to spice things up. So it's not like I was spending my allowance on unnecessary stuff.

I'll mull things over with my therapist. Maybe we can arrange something. As for transportation to get to my job, it's still within walking distance, but it's not nearby. I was hoping to use the tube or the bus to get to it quicker, but I'll just have to make time to go walking there.

Anyway, thanks for listening. I really appreciate it.

Re: Money Woes

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

I'm sorry to hear your mom kind of dysfunctionally adapted to having wealth, it sucks that this is how she wields it now that she has it.

I can feel you on the back story as I grew up poor myself, and I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm not trying to critique your spending habits, since I have no idea what they are, I was just offering possible routes to scrimping money. But when it comes down to bare essentials like you're describing-- meds, healthcare, food, travel-- I can see where there isn't that much to save on.

I still suggest the walking where you can. Getting the chance to exercise is a lot of help for making yourself feel better, and a walk to work can help put you in the right mood. Not sure how long the commute is for you, but I walked to work when I was in Korea, which amounted to about a mile.