[ SECRET POST #2496 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2496 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Non-fandom confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I think I might possibly be bi.

But I don't know.

I'm not one of these people who's "known since they were five" - my childhood crushes were the opposite sex. This doubting is more recent. So what if I've just somehow convinced myself that I'm bi?

I've barely dated anyone of the opposite sex, let alone anyone of the same sex, so how do I know for sure? But I don't want to date someone as an experiment, that would be cruel.

What if I tell people, and then it turns out I'm not bi, and I look like an idiot? What if I am bi, and not even people from the LGBTQ community will date me? How the hell do you even find people to date?

I don't feel comfortable thinking of myself as LGBTQ, either - I feel like I'd be stealing that label, that it would be wrong of me to claim that.

I'm stuck in a small city where there's only five degrees of separation, I feel like there's no resources, nowhere for me to turn, nobody I can talk to about this.

I just needed to vent.

Re: Non-fandom confessions

[anonymouslyyours]

Okay, the "known since childhood narrative" is sometimes true, but not always and unfortunately has kind of been damaging to people like us.

If you're experiencing sexual attraction towards members of the same sex you're somewhat bisexual. Maybe it's more of a sliding scale for you and you don't ever have to act on it if you don't want but you aren't convincing yourself you're bisexual any more than anyone else is capable of convincing themselves of adopting a new sexual identity.

I went through a very similar experience as you and unfortunately you're going to experience biphobia from both ends of the sexual orientation spectrum and it's going to suck, especially early on, but it won't change the fact that you experience sexual attraction to members of both sexes.

I recommend coming to terms with wrapping your head around and accepting your curiosity/orientation for yourself before telling or dating people. I used the internet to adjust? As for the small town thing my solution was to move so I can't really be helpful in that regard. :/


And hey, yeah you, you know that 'Q' in the LGBTQ? That's you.

From the wiki: "The initialism LGBT is intended to emphasize a diversity of sexuality and gender identity-based cultures and is sometimes used to refer to anyone who is non-heterosexual or non-cisgender instead of exclusively to people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. To recognize this inclusion, a popular variant adds the letter Q for those who identify as queer and/or are questioning their sexual identity as LGBTQ, recorded since 1996."

Re: Non-fandom confessions

[(Anonymous)]

It's pretty late and you probably won't see this reply, but I just wanted to say thank you.

I just feel really comforted right now; I didn't really expect anybody to read my tl;dr venting, I just wanted to get it out of my system.

So thanks for the advice! :)

Re: Non-fandom confessions

[anonymouslyyours]

And now I don't know if you'll see this reply but I saw your reply! :) (Most accounts seem to have some kind of notifications set up)

But, no problem, and good luck! See you around the comm.

Re: Non-fandom confessions

[(Anonymous)]

If you think you are, you probably are. You might or might not be very strongly attracted to people of the same gender, but you're probably on that continuum. Mind you, I'm starting to suspect most women are.

Re: Non-fandom confessions

[anonymouslyyours]

Or most humans are and it's just more socially acceptable for women to explore their sexuality.

Re: Non-fandom confessions

[(Anonymous)]

You could be me. Awkward nervous probably-not-straight people represent!