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⌈ Secret Post #2503 ⌋

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To perspect or not to perspect?

[khronos_keeper]

Okay so that was a crap title, but let me explain. There's a concept that's floating around that basically says, "There is no 'harder'; there is just 'hard'."

Which is to say that everybody has their own problems, and someone's problems aren't necessarily worse than anyone else's problems on any objective level, because all problems are subjective.

But sometimes I have a really hard time subscribing to this idea, because it seems like people misuse it. I have to wonder, is there ever a time where it's acceptable to say, "Get some perspective."

What do you guys think? Is there ever an appropriate time to tell someone to "get perspective" about something they're complaining about? Or should you always try to see it from the other person's perspective?

Re: To perspect or not to perspect?

[(Anonymous)]

Yes to both. You can understand where someone's coming from and still suggest they might want to try to see where other people are coming from. Also, there are times when it's not appropriate to make the suggestion, and times when you're not obligated to put in the effort to understand.

Re: To perspect or not to perspect?

[(Anonymous)]

Pretty much. I mean, it's nice to hear that everybody has problems after all the oppression olympics going around, but sometimes people do need to be told to get some perspective.

Re: To perspect or not to perspect?

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, I kind agree with both.

On the one hand, pain & suffering is experienced differently by each person. For example, for a kid, getting a favourite toy taken away can be THE WORST THING EVER, because they're five, and they don't really have anything to compare it to.

But on the other hand... there's a big difference between someone whose father won't let them buy a mobile phone, compared to someone whose father is physically & emotionally abusive.

I've heard some people be quite cruelly dismissive towards those with serious problems, by pulling out the "my problem is just as bad as yours" thing, and I do want to tell them to get some perspective and stop being dicks.