[ SECRET POST #2511 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2511 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Hobbit]


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03.
[The Fly 1986]


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04.
[Slightly Damned]


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05.
[Game Of Thrones]


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06.
[DC Comics]


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07.
[NCIS]


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08.
[Roosterteeth]


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09.
[Mass Effect]
[Art: The Shepard Siblings, by bigcman321]


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10.
[Easy A]


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11.
[Sleepy Hollow]


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12.
[Sir David Attenborough]


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13.
[New Tricks]


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14.
[Hannibal (NBC)]









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Comments

[fscom]

10. http://i.imgur.com/gYsglkL.png?1?9370
[Easy A]

[sootyowl]

I read this quote as pretty supporting. I feel like he's saying: Try, experiment, it's okay. You might be gay, you might be bi, whatever. I'll love you no matter what.

On the other hand, I always hate the "I was a lesbian in college for a year," line in shows and movies. It always seems to be for the male gaze and laughs, and not about discovering your sexuality.

[gondremark]

"I was gay once". Ummm, no, you either are gay (or bi) or you never were gay (or bi). Sure, sexuality is all fluid and whatnot and trying something once or twice doesn't mean it has to define you, but this gay-as-a-phase thing is played out.

As sootyowl pointed out, though, the quote's supposed to be all "do what you want!" and that's nice, but, well, wearing torn jeans is something you did once, being gay isn't.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think it's an either/or thing. I agree the whole "it's just a phase" thing is annoying - as it is when the phrase is applied to anything - but for some people it really can work like that.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah though I guess it's more of a question of identity and what you call yourself? Because I pretty much have come full circle on identifying as straight-bi-gay-pan-gay-bi but I'd never say that I "used to be gay", because that sounds very ex-gay retoric. Like you learn things about yourself, and you realize that the word you used to use doesn't really apply anymore.

[(Anonymous)]

Also, I always felt like that particular line in the movie was just a dumb dad joke to cheer up and embarrass, so there's that.

[chardmonster]

How dare this supportive dad use the wrong term that negates everything good about this

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, pretty obnoxious.

[(Anonymous)]

Eh, I honestly took that as "I thought I was for a while, then I realized I'm not" and just using the wrong phrasing. Which, love it or hate, does happen without anything negative meant by it.

OP:

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this is how I kind of read it too. "You might think you're this, but then realize you're THIS and that's okay so don't sweat it..."

[(Anonymous)]

When heard in context, the father in question is pretty obviously joking to make his daughter feel better. She's had a boy over and in her room who is very openly gay (when not at the high school) but "dating" their daughter. Both parents are puzzled, and assume their daughter knows what she's doing, but are still vaguely parental-curious about WTF is going on.

[elaminator]

The best part of this movie was the family, tbh. And I agree with him; whatever you are, it's fine. It's a shame you feel your family wouldn't be more supportive, but maybe they'll accept you one day.

Anyway, I'm sure you'll work it out. You have plenty of time.

[habilelapin]

I loved them too. They were so open and genuinely accepting. It didn't feel forced, simply like they themselves were very laid-back people who trusted their daughter to know how to take care of herself, and also come to them if she really needed them. (Which she did)

Breaking Bad

[(Anonymous)]

Is this the same guy from Breaking Bad?

Re: Breaking Bad

[fingalsanteater]

No. Guy in the pic is the (sexy as fuck) Stanley Tucci. Guy in Breaking Bad is Brian Cranston (who is also sexy).

Re: Breaking Bad

[(Anonymous)]

I'm with you.

[(Anonymous)]

I generally hate this sort of line in fiction... I'm aware that this sort of thing happens rather frequently IRL, but there's so little LGBT representation in fiction (and even less *good* LGBT representation) that it can come off as seriously dismissive and sometimes actively insulting. It also feeds into the whole 'being gay is a choice and if you wish hard enough you can 'get over it'.

But I like it in this case. I don't really know what makes it different. It's just the whole vibe of the scene, I guess.

[(Anonymous)]

And it's Stanley Tucci.

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's partly the vibe of the scene and also the character himself. He and the mother are AMAZING. They make a point of being very open and accepting of their daughter and her friends and trust her to know her own heart and mind. The dad being open about the fact that everyone is equal and there should be no judgment and even he as "a little too straight"(as the mother said) as he is even enjoyed the company of men in the past. The daughter is aware of the Kinsey scale so it's assumed her parents were very open about fluid sexuality and that labels weren't as important.

But yeah for MOST other characters/scenes/etc? Saying that... no. But in THIS scenario? It made a weird and adorable amount of sense.

[(Anonymous)]

Another bisexual here and I really hate that line. I don't find "everyone's a little queer, at least for a time" comforting at all. But I'm glad someone found comfort in it.

[(Anonymous)]

I really think the father was only joking when he said that, using the "lesbian until graduation" joke on himself so that he can suss out just what is going on.