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⌈ Secret Post #2514 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Do I need to find a boyfriend?

[(Anonymous)]

What you need is not a boyfriend.

What you need is more confidence in yourself - if, when you go places, you're caught up thinking about whether or not other people see you as a loser, then a boyfriend won't fix anything. Chances are, you'll not only have a terrible relationship since it's not what you want, but you'll then have a whole new thing to agonize about. Instead of "do they all think I"m a loser because I'm single?" you'll worry about "do they all think I'm a loser because my boyfriend is X?" or "do they all think I'm a loser because my job is ...?" or "do they all ..."

You have to stop comparing your life to other peoples'. Just because others are happy with marriage or kids, doesn't mean that that is right for you, or that that will make you happy. Try to objectively look at your life and evaluate what YOU like about it, what YOU don't like about it, and then decide what change you want to work for, if any.

And take it from me that a lot of your friends in relationships have a LOT of nostalgia for back when they didn't have the responsibilities or pressures of maintaining a relationship, or the time that they were free to sleep and didn't have to get up throughout the night to see to the baby. Hell, some of them might be thinking, "Oh, I hope my friend doesn't think I'm a loser because.... "

If the problem is mainly your feeling of being left out of your friends' lives as they focus on marriage and kids, you need to either find a way to stay included in things (become the cool honorary aunt or uncle, or their great single friend who has the energy to host the parties, or what have you) or, you have to evaluate the friendships and if they've truly moved on, you should try to find companionship more in your "demographic" - there are plenty of singles not interested in either children or relationships in your age-group and they have interests and hobbies and jobs...

Good Luck. :)

Re: Do I need to find a boyfriend?

[comma_chameleon]

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This is a good comment and full of sound advice! ♥

OP, getting into a relationship merely to say you ARE in a relationship is NOT a good reason to be with someone.

To begin with, you're either going to lie to the person you're with, or they're going to be with you knowing they're just an accessory, which doesn't say too much about their self esteem either. Both of these routes seem like a short path to Not Good Town.

Like the anon above has said, to be in a good relationship, you first need to have a good relationship with yourself. You need to be confident and comfortable in who YOU are and not go looking for a partner or someone who you think will make you feel better about yourself.