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fandomsecrets2013-11-28 06:31 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2013-11-28 06:31 pm
[ SECRET POST #2522 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2522 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Men in Black]
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[Sleepy Hollow]
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[Scott Pilgrim vs. the World]
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[Kenneth Branagh and Chris Hemsworth]
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[Person of Interest]
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[The Listener]
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[nick jonas/hawaii five-0]
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[Big Bang Theory]
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[The Hunger Games, Liam Hemsworth and Jennifer Lawrence]
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(Major Lazer/EDM)
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[Star Trek: Deep Space 9]
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[The Quick and Dirty Life of Fritz Fargo]
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[The Green Mile]
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[Aurelio Voltaire]
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I don't necessarily like characters who are without flaws (the qualification is in there because there are a couple that I genuinely love) but that said, the boys' flaws should have consequences far more often than they do. And that is something that I dislike because flaws are meaningless if they don't have impact on the character/narrative. I don't require niceness or even balance in characters/narratives but I do require that if X follow logically from W and that if Y is a probable consequence of W & X, then Y should at least be considered by the narrative, if not applied.
And, with the sheer number of women that they interact with, the guys should be slapped down far more often than they are. (The only woman who comes to mind as having deservedly slapped down Leonard was the geek girl he made out with while dating Priya. But, even in his break up with Priya, Priya had to be "more wrong" than Leonard - he made out with a girl so she had to sleep with her ex-boyfriend.) But yeah, it really is inexplicable to me that so many women are apparently willing to ultimately put up with those guys. Some, I could buy. All but one? Seems impossible.
I don't necessarily want Penny's acting career to work out for her so much as want anything to work out for Penny. But if I got to pick the thing that works out for her, I'd like it to be that clothing app that she made with Sheldon. (Or a break up with Leonard sticking, either or.)
And I'd argue against either Penny or Sheldon's dreams being trite or shallow things that they need to let go of. Their dreams signal very real emotional needs that, if they were met in other, more immediate ways, Penny and Sheldon might be willing to let go of in favor of an equally satisfying reality.
But I do want Amy to find someone else who likes her the way that she is. Not to blow Sheldon's mind with her awesomeness or that she is something he could've had but lost the opportunity of - I don't think either character is capable of those kinds of thoughts - but everyone deserves to have someone who accepts them as they are, rather than enduring them. And, at the moment, Amy and Sheldon seem to be enduring each other at best. And I think that the current parameters of their current relationship would be more satisfying to both of them if Amy was getting sex elsewhere.
I think Howard is all the child that Bernadette can handle and that, if she saw him as he is instead of through her surprisingly rose-colored glasses, she would probably be far less enamored with him than she is. Luckily for Howard, Bernadette is a surprisingly generous soul. (And Howard seems to be trying to grow up for her, which might eventually ease their friction regarding kids.)
(No worries about the tangents... I'm tempted by them too!)
Leonard and Priya is actually a kind of sad relationship. He starts off clingy but backs off when Priya refuses to put up with it. He simmers down and stops pushing for seriousness on Priya's part but, when Priya starts intimating that she's interested in a more serious relationship with Leonard, he can't let go of his previous attachment to Penny. Although, I have to admit, I was evilly amused by Priya's attempts to improve Leonard and red-headed doctor's clingy-ness. It was like watching Leonard date some of the less pleasant aspects of himself.
I don't think Sheldon was intentionally dating behind the scenes. And I think that if/when it stopped, it was because Amy stopped it.
I have to admit, I really enjoyed Leslie Winkle. And I actually really enjoyed (what there was of) her relationship with Leonard.
I agree that Howard and Raj are worse with girls than Leonard and Sheldon(!) are but, judging by their random comments to things like threesomes at comic con and their weekly social nights (for example, line-dancing night), they both certainly have more than a handful of dates/sexual experiences. And weirdly, I don't think that exploitative relationship with the deaf girl was his only deaf girlfriend - Raj makes a few references to another one that he met at comic con while Leonard is whining about being alone and lonely in a couple of episodes. (It's roughly around the same time that Stewart has the Wonder Woman girlfriend.) So, I have no problem believing that viewers aren't shown all, or even most, of Howard and Raj's dating experiences or relationships.
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I agree with this completely, and it goes to the heart of the show for me, I just don't think it's a flaw in any way. That's deft and compelling characterization, from where I'm looking. Of course Sheldon's professional fixation and hubris are making up for a profoundly stunted social and emotional life. Penny's movie-star fantasies are the dreams of someone who has never stopped to think about what she really wants for herself and her life (maybe she's never needed to) because she's spent most of it being a pretty face. It's sad and uncomfortable and I love it to pieces.
Ditto Amy/Sheldon, I think - what he's doing to her is humiliating and possibly downright cruel. If he had the least bit of ability to see it and really cared for her, he should untangle himself from her life as fast as possible. But, of course, he doesn't have that insight, not a whit. For her part, watching her begging for affection and warmth from someone so singularly ill-equipped to give any is just brutal, and probably indicative of a crushingly low esteem and distinct whiff of self-sabotage. (A little more charitably, I can also accept that part of it is that for all her talk, she really doesn't feel ready for a genuine, intimate, sexual relationship, and letting herself be strung along by Sheldon is a sort of comfortable safe-space.) If I knew her, as a person, all I would be telling her is to dump his ass. As fictional characters though, all that incompetence, vulnerability and hurt is just riveting.
(I do think they have something, some weird connection that goes beyond friendship. I also don't particularly buy Sheldon as genuinely asexual (mostly because it would be just...healthier, and I like the messiness) and there's a certain twisted sexual edge to their relationship (all those contracts and experiments and mind games. Practically fifty shades of the color they paint the inside of asylums) that makes the whole thing quite tense and fascinating. The moments when they do manage to fumble their way to a bit of real intimacy - because they're so rare and fragile, and come in the midst of this vast ocean of alienation - are kind of sublime. So, yeah, I totally ship that even while I think it's fairly of awful.)
Anyway, that's all to say that what I find most interesting about the show is exactly how frustrating it is, and how stubborn it is about giving anyone - characters or viewers - any sort of catharsis. Yeah, it would be great if Penny made it big. If Sheldon has some emotional breakthrough. If Amy left him for someone who deserves her. If Howard did the laundry without being told, for once. But that's a long, slow, tedious journey, and that's how it should be. That is the show, not a problem with the show. Anything that does happens feels...earned, and hard-fought, so there's still a light at the end of that tunnel.
I can accept that the guys, in reality, should be even lonelier and even worse with women, but it does give them more ways of flaming out. I find the lot of them thoroughly pitiable, and yet offputting, as is - turning that dial a little more up or down seems mostly academic to me in terms of the narrative. A few dates more or less wouldn't change the basic paradigm of the thing - they're jerks, they can't see that they're jerks, and it leaves them ever more miserable and yet ever more jerks. Spiral of doom. That's my show!
Yeah, I loved Leslie Winkle too, and I did like Priya, actually. She was a little needy, but still far less than Leonard. Her ministrations also seem to have taken - he still wears the clothes she bought him and has grown into someone a little more composed, when needed. I think a lot of that was Priya rather than Penny. I did think that bit with the doctor when he's astonished to discover that his feelings are also supposed to matter and be communicated in a relationship, and maybe a relationship requires something more from him than to be some kind of desperate, passive-agressively cloying pile of tissue paper is one of the funniest/saddest of the show's moments.