[ SECRET POST #2537 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2537 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[MLP]


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[NiGHTS into Dreams]


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[MLP]


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04.
[Sleepy Hollow]


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[Mabinogi]


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[the hollows/rachel morgan]


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[MLP/fallout: equestria]


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[Collar 6]


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09. [SPOILERS for Catching Fire]



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10. [SPOILERS for Ludo's Broken Bride CD]



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11. [SPOILERS for Monster Girl Quest]



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12. [WARNING for sexual assault]

[Glee]


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13. [WARNING for abuse]

[MLP]


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14. [WARNING for non-con]

[MLP]


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Comments

Help

[(Anonymous)]

I'm in my mid twenties, and I've slowly come to realise that I'm emotionally retarded and just growing up hasn't changed anything despuite what I was always told.

Like they're just something I'm incapable of understanding either personally, or in others.

I'm not autistic or anything my parents had me tested, and understand when people are feeling them, I just consider it something they need to deal with themselves and ignore them in myself.

Is there anyway to fix this?

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

Dude. Way too little information. It really, really depends.

As a very general piece of advice, I would just say try some new things and try to get some new experiences rather than settle into a rut of routine. Take up some kind of new challenge. Involve yourself in a group of people very different from who you're used to. If it's at all possible, travel. If traveling is not an option, try to replicate the interpersonal experiences you can get from traveling. (Mark Twain once said travel is the enemy of prejudice, ignorance, and narrow-mindedness, and I'm inclined to believe him). That's often a good way to "grow up" as you put it.

But btw, being different from other people, not not having the same values as other people, is not a bad thing unless it's making you unhappy for reasons that have nothing to do with what you believe you're "supposed" to do. Sorry I can't be more specific, but your comment wasn't too specific either so that's all I can say.

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

Congratulations on finally becoming an adult. It's that sickening realization that you are just impersonating a responsible adult that actually marks growing up.

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

I...don't think that's what OP is having trouble with.

Re: Help

[diet_poison]

lol what is this comment

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

Need more details. From the info you've given you seem like an average mid-twenties adult.

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[nyxelestia]

Hate to break it to you, but what you described is about half of growing up right there.

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

research "emotional health" on google i guess

the solution would be something along the lines of "just start putting more mental effort into being aware of/recognizing emotions and then learning to accept and manage them"

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

I'm just starting to feel what you're supposed to feel when you're an adult. At times. I think. Probably. I'm starting to realize there are things I won't feel ever though, like caring too much for others, but I think that's because of my upbringing.

I'm in my early thirties.

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

Turn it around. How would you feel if someone else that you cared for and were close to didn't care about your feelings? If you would be bothered, then there's a lack of empathy that you need to work on. If you wouldn't care, then there's a more fundamental disconnect at work between emotions and how they affect people/why they matter.

Consider this: if someone you who mattered to you were in physical pain, would you want to lend them assistance if you were able? Emotional pain isn't so different, even if the risk of permanent injury is less.

As to what to do about it, sometimes it's simply a matter of being able to say the right things, even if you can't make the empathic connection. Try, "I'm not all that good with emotional stuff, but I'm sorry you're upset. If there's any way I can help, please let me know." Practicing empathy n this way may even help you to develop it.

Re: Help

[(Anonymous)]

It's really hard to say? On one end it could be narcissism or some kind of sociopathic thing if there's a total lack of empathy for other people.

On the other end, you could be extremely fearful of responsibility for someone else's well being either because you don't know what to do or you're terrified you won't be able to help.