[ SECRET POST #2546 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2546 ⌋

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Comments

[hoggle2807]

I've mostly gone back to being anon around these parts and avoiding that other place altogether, but your comments make me want to log in. As someone whose had an eerily similar experience, the best thing I can say to you is you have to let them go. I didn't recognize it at the time, but when I was having my blowout with that community, I was in the beginning stages of what became a pretty deep depression. They obviously didn't cause it -- depression doesn't need a reason to turn your life to shit -- but that experience certainly didn't help.

And you've just got to let it go, because carrying around a bunch of anger isn't a good for you. Recognize that it's a place where a handful of "unacceptable" comments overwrite months of good times, and where words all of a sudden stop being thoughts of a real person and start being tactics of an enemy. They need enemies so they can feel like heroes. It was actually Noodles here who helped me realize when it happened to me that they wouldn't let me apologize and they certainly won't forgive me, and for a long time that really hurt. But you know whose problem that is?

Theirs. It's not mine, and it's not yours, it's theirs.

So mourn what you've lost -- it always sucks to lose a sense of a community, especially if you're kind of a loner offline -- but then find some new blogs. Don't let that loss have power over you. Don't give THEM that power over you. Watch a new show. Follow some fun celebs on Twitter or read a book. Start your own blog or pick up a new hobby. Find something that will take your mind off of that place until you can think about it without being angry or feeling hurt. Because left to run unchecked, those feelings can fester and become toxic. That place isn't worth that, and you're worth more than that (and so am I).

[(Anonymous)]

This is a really nice comment.

[(Anonymous)]

I would nominate this for "comment of the day" if we had such a thing