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[Resident Evil movies]

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04. [SPOILERS for something but idk what]

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07. [WARNING for rape]

[Martin Freeman]

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08. [WARNING for rape]

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09. [WARNING for domestic abuse]

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I love my coworkers, and I never get along with people, so regarding them as friends and being easy around them and happy in their company is a big deal. They're awesome people.

Now lately they talk about going out together to see movies after work, or going to dinner. And I'm not a part of that. I guess I was quick to embrace the "friendship" part of things.

Be the first one to suggest going out for dinner next time. Be the first one to ask if anyone wants to go to a movie next time. Don't sit around hoping they'll ask you the next time.

Chances are the reason you're not a part of that is because they don't realize you want to be. Offering these things yourself is how they'll realize you do want to be a part of it. Don't be afraid to be the one who offers to be friendly, rather than the one who waits to accept a friendly overture. Even if they turn you down, no one ever dislikes a friendly offer.

I'm agreeing with Intrigueing :3 Happens a lot to us introverts (or formerly shy people); when we try to reach out and form bonds with other people. We try! And we think we're doing it awesomely (and by god, it's an Actual Effort that shouldn't be disregarded). But sometimes, more "social" people don't realize it: not out of malice, but because their ways of reaching out are more explicit.

Also, yes, please don't be afraid of being turned down. It doesn't immediately mean that they dislike you, maybe it's just not the correct time. Who knows what's inside of another person's head? You just keep on rocking ;3 Be nice and friendly to people, and sooner or later you'll find yourself with people that you can call friends, and they'll call you their friend back. Maybe not DOZENS of friends, y'know, but good people you can mutually rely on and have good times.

Perhaps talk about how you're free this week/next week and you're not sure what to do. Mention offhand a movie you're interested in and if anyone would like to come? Be the inviter type person (and do keep in mind that sometimes people are busy, I notice social things come in spurts sometimes).

It could be they do not realise that you'd like to come along. If you're feeling particularly brave, maybe outright ask if you can tag along next time they're heading out to things.

I wouldn't write them off as not being friends straight away.

Good luck anon!

I agree with intrigueing.

I've been informed there's a ton of little ways I create a sense of personal boundaries or drop hints that I'm not open to socializing outside of work and don't even realize it. IME if your coworkers are women they're probably even more sensitive to a lack of overtures from you or comments about how you don't like to go out much or prefer to watch movies at home, etc.

Just last month after some coworkers and I volunteered at a company event I invited a couple girls I was friendly with at work out to my favorite restaurant and it seemed to open some social invitation floodgates I hadn't noticed I'd had shut.

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