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⌈ Secret Post #2552 ⌋

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[darkmanifest]

Thank you, sincerely, for educating me on the difference between adoption and foster care - I did not know much of that and I apologize for my ignorance. You just confirmed that it's even worse than I thought, if an abusive mother refuses to give up rights but abuse can't be proven enough to have rights taken away, then children can bounce back and forth between bad foster homes and bad birth parents without any chance of escape. And mothers who might be that kind of spiteful should be forced to give birth anyway?

But killing thousands of healthy babies isn't going to suddenly make these parents want to take on a disabled child.

I'm not trying to make anybody do anything they don't want to do. One of the many reasons a woman might abort is upon discovering her child will be born with special needs that she doesn't feel capable of handling; we can determine many disabilities in the womb. There's also mothers who happily decide to birth and raise such children. They choose. That's the point.

Are older children in foster care because no one wants to adopt them a problem? Yes, of course. Are people going to suddenly start adopting them, because we make who they really want to adopt unavailable by killing them? No. The best way to get older children adopted out is by them having a sibling born that their parents aren't allowed to keep by giving people what they want (the baby) if they take on an older child as well.

So the solution for unwanted children is not only to force mothers to give birth, but to force people who want to adopt to take on more children than they want? Some people are just all about forcing children on people who don't want them. But, again, thank you, you just educated me on yet another reason why people go outside the U.S. to adopt infants, when they don't want to wait a year.

Are people going to suddenly start adopting them, because we make who they really want to adopt unavailable by killing them? No.

Are people going to suddenly start adopting all the children there are if we have even more kids in the system by outlawing abortion? No. The number of adoptive parents or good foster homes for kids in a custody situation will not magically increase with the number of kids who need them.

It's hard to let them go; its even harder when they come back a few months later with a broken arm and then having to let them go again.

...and this is supposed to be better than abortion?

I don't agree that killing unborn kids is an ideal solution, either, because it's not - it's extreme damage control in the face of flawed and limited options. The ideal is comprehensive education, affordable birth control, and better safety nets for parents and children alike. But when all those ideals are lacking - which they most emphatically are in the U.S. as it is right now - elective abortion is what we have left. Outlawing it will not give women what they need to be happy and capable mothers. But keeping it legal will at least keep them from being mothers at all and prevent a lot of problems before they came about instead of letting them increase and complicate in the name of airy ideals.