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Coping with loosing friend

[(Anonymous)]

whether they are just moving across the country, telling you they don't want to be friends anymore, or maybe passing on, how do you/would you deal with it?

Re: Coping with loosing friend

[(Anonymous)]

I'm terrible at coping, so I have always tried to drown my sorrows in watching my favorite shows and reading books and things, hoping that I will find advice and comfort in them. I also tend to shut people out for a while out of fear of getting close to someone and then loosing them again. It's not healthy but it's an instinctive reaction that I have to work hard at to overcome.

Re: Coping with loosing friend

[(Anonymous)]

Well if you've been chaining them up against their will, it's understandable they'd like to be loose and as far away from you as possible.

Re: Coping with loosing friend

[(Anonymous)]

*sporfle* I noticed that too. Sorry OP.

Re: Coping with loosing friend

[caerbannog]

Depends on the kind of losing. Something sudden and unexpected? Do some serious withdrawal for a couple of weeks, feel a bit disorientated, the feelings of loss, confusion, hurt depending on situation. Then I'll make myself do things I like, go outside a lot, clean, garden and just kind of try to ease my way out of it. Losing friends is painful, but it happens and I just gotta mourn and move on. Spend time with other friends to salve over it.

Re: Coping with loosing friend

[(Anonymous)]

I lost one friend in high school because of how I acted and that was really hard. I had the opportunity to apologize, but honestly time was probably the best way I came to terms with it.

Friends who just naturally drift apart from don't bother me.

And you can still keep in contact with friends who move it just takes extra effort!

Re: Coping with loosing friend

[(Anonymous)]

Depends on why it's happening. Just drifting? I generally don't notice. A fight or something sudden? I go into a fuck you mindset, ignore them on social media, and stay very busy (while generally listening to angry music until I'm over it).

So, basically the same way I handle a non-platonic break up.

Re: Coping with loosing friend

[(Anonymous)]

Well... those situations are really different, so there's no all-purpose answer. If someone was moving and wanted to keep in touch, I'd try to keep in touch with them-- which is pretty easy to do these days. If they told me they didn't want to be friends anymore, I'd shrug and accept it and try not to let it get me down. If someone died, then I'd grieve and think about all the good memories I have of them and maybe try to do something nice in their memory.