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⌈ Secret Post #2559 ⌋

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BRING ON THE CAMP AND CHEESE.

(...Okay, I can understand being embarrassed because of how a friend or family member is acting, but a movie/TV show/book/etc? You clearly have no sense of fun.)

Just because someone does not enjoy the same thing as you does not mean they do not know how to have fun.

If you can watch the emo Peter Parker scene in Spiderman 3 without cringing and massive amounts of second hand embarrassment then I tip my cap to you. You are clearly a better man than I.

I don't even remember that scene. I usually get second hand embarrassment from reality shows.

It's stupid concept, yes, but it doesn't stop me from pausing whenever characters do embarrassing things.

Uh, sorry, but as somebody who had an embarrassment squick for as long as they can remember (often leading to jumping up and running out of the room when an embarrassing scene came up out of anxiety), yeah well, that's what you think. It's become better as I grew up and maybe it's stupid but no sense of fun? I really don't get your opinion.

And yet somehow I am magically able to have fun even though I experience secondhand embarrassment for fictional characters.

Which I hate.

I avoid comedies and romantic comedies for a reason. Cannot stand the icky itchy ew feeling of secondhand embarrassment.

Just thinking about it is urgh.

Sometimes I get embarrassed because I remember that these actors are fucking or pretending to fuck in front of a whole studio full of people watching with intense focus, and there's a director prepared to call out "No, no, you can pretend to eat her out better than that, damn it! Get all up in there!" Aaaaaagh.

And now I'm imagining this and getting so much fucking embarassment. Nononono.

I often get awful, epic levels of secondhand embarrassment from watching or reading awkward situations, although usually not sex scenes. So I should be sympathetic that that happens to you. Instead I'm laughing like a loon. (And then in traditional OTT fashion, the director pushes one of the actors out of the way and goes "no, you should use your tongue like this.) Thanks.

I've always had a dread of doing something embarrassing in public ever since I was a kid. I won't talk about it or admit it, but sometimes I'll have a good day and be out talking to people... and then I'll lie in bed at night going over all the conversations I had, feeling sick to stomach over how stupid I must've sounded, or whether or not I offended someone.

So when I see a character doing something that would embarrass me if I were in their place, I have this involuntary moment of discomfort. Most of the time I can shrug it off, but sometimes it's so strong I have to stop watching or I won't watch that particular show/movie again.

I still enjoy some aspects of camp and cheese, depending on how it's done. It's just that I never know what will affect me in that way until it happens. It took me years to figure out that it was happening in the first place, and WHY. Point is, when it does happen, it's no longer fun for me. I'm suddenly a kid again, sitting in fourth grade math class while my teacher tells the class how many questions I got wrong on the test in a mock horror tone of voice. After years of trying, I can only control it to a degree.

Does this mean I have "no sense of fun"?

It's called "empathy." Having some doesn't mean one lacks a sense of fun.

Stupid or not, I basically can't watch at least half of the existing comedy genre (and almost all of the romantic comedy genre) because of the amount of second-hand embarrassment I get. I cringe and often just fast-forward a movie or leave the room during these parts.

Or as one of my friends once said: "You can watch gore, torture, war, and murder, but you can't watch a sitcom date?"

You clearly haven't watched enough Mary Tyler Moore Show episodes.

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