[ SECRET POST #2560 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2560 ⌋

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Comments

Re: This pissed me off (TW: suicide)

[jaybie_jarrett]

Also playing shrink is emotionally exhausting. Playing shrink even PART of the time can be exhausting sometimes. It doesn't mean you love them any less if you take a break for yourself and it's actually beneficial to you AND them if you take a break to get yourself to a good point. If you're a wreck , then you may just end up HURTING them in the long run or saying things that might hurt.

Re: This pissed me off (TW: suicide)

[dethtoll]

Ugh, I can relate to the emotionally exhausting bit. I have a total basket case of a friend who's pretty much worn me out.

This will probably get tmi.

[(Anonymous)]

Same here, except it's my mother instead of my friend. I love my mom, but I've suspected for a long time that she needed to be diagnosed with...something. I don't know what, because I'm not a professional. But she can't ever stay the night alone, like ever (she'll get scared if she's ever alone in the house at night). She'll call 60 times within an hour instead of leaving one message. She freaks out over the littlest things, and has hyper overreactions. And she needs to be the center of attention most of the time and feels highly insecure if another woman is getting attention. Like I said, I love my mom because she is my mother. But being around her for more than a few hours is EXHAUSTING.

Re: This will probably get tmi.

[(Anonymous)]

Not to mention that sometimes, playing the shrink, no matter how well-meaning - can do more harm than good. My mother is a really sweet person, and my father is mostly a nice guy, but they are both awkward and helpless when it comes to my depression.
My mother doesn't really understand (even though I explained it to her), but some of the things she said to me during some talks actually dragged me further down, even though I know she really, really didn't intend to do that and was actually trying to be helpful. She means well, but well meant is not always well done.

Re: This will probably get tmi.

[scrubber]

I've heard good things about this book?

http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Borderline-Mother-Unpredictable-Relationship/dp/0765703319/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1388976389&sr=1-1&keywords=the+borderline+mother

The "exhausting" bit sounds like it could point to borderline. They are very draining people to be around.

Re: This pissed me off (TW: suicide)

[ketita]

When I was in high school, I had a friend who was suicidal and depressive. She had a therapist, but me trying to be a good friend, I would talk to her whenever she needed it, tried to be supportive, etc.
It ended up screwing me over pretty badly, because I had no idea how much of myself I was investing emotionally. She's ok now, but it took me a few years to get back to normal. So yeah, the support group of somebody suicidal - they're people too, and they need their own support...