[ SECRET POST #2562 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2562 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Things you are sick of seeing in rec lists.

[(Anonymous)]

Idk, I can understand being irritated with someone doing it if they do it fairly often because...well. Them forgetting you recced it regularly does start feeling like they completely ignore what you say. So I don't see any harm in being irritated as long as you don't lash out.

Re: Things you are sick of seeing in rec lists.

[crunchysunrises]

I don't see the point of being irritated and doing nothing about it.

I have a friend who is literally about two years behind me in my interests. She's never interested in things when I'm crazy about them, forgets my recs, and then dives into them whole-heartedly the aforementioned two years later. And she demands that I read/watch whatever I was raving about originally, having completely forgotten that I was the one who told her about it in the first place.

And, as I said above, it's still an opportunity to enjoy something I like with someone I like.

Plus, it just rubs me the wrong way that OP is miffed that someone a.) thought about them when they didn't have to and b.) knows them well enough to predict they'd like a thing when they see that thing. That's a lot of caring.

So what if OP's seen it before? Take your lemons, stop looking for offense where none was meant, and make your damn lemonade.

Re: Things you are sick of seeing in rec lists.

[(Anonymous)]

Frankly, the OP didn't seem offended so much as just sick of the behavior and venting - which is "doing something about it" that also happens to not hurt a friend that the OP, presumably, cares about.

The reasons you gave for it rubbing you the wrong way? That rubs me the wrong way. It smacks of the attitude of "Well someone did something for you, so you must be grateful or you're a selfish bitch!" The OP does not have to feel grateful for it.

Re: Things you are sick of seeing in rec lists.

[crunchysunrises]

Look, I'm bored with this conversation and talking to people who seem determined to be offended over nothing.

I'm not entirely certain why it's hurtful to just say, "Hey, it bugs me that you're not capable of remembering the minute details of the boring crap I tell you about on a fairly regular basis on the off-chance that someday you might like that thing too and can then give me credit for having superior taste and for finding that book/fic you liked before you ever even knew it was a thing. Also? If you see something that I'll like, just assume that I saw it first and don't tell me about it. Thanks."

Oh wait. That would require someone to acknowledge that a.) everyone has lives and b.) credit doesn't always end up where you think it should because people are fallible.

Frankly, if OP isn't going to sack up and tell the friend that Y behavior bothers him/her then OP needs to learn to look on the bright side and stop being offended by every little slight, real or perceived, because that much built up and unaired resentment is unhealthy.

And FYI? I pretty much stopped reading at the gender slur. Because to me, that signals the end of a conversation.

Which this now is.