[ SECRET POST #2564 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2564 ⌋

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Re: OP here- TMI ahead

[(Anonymous)]

1. Yeah, if you aren't aroused, then masturbating or sex is gonna feel a lot more like "work" than it should. And it's going to be a lot more detached and clinical than pleasurable. But maybe you just don't like direct stimulation to your breasts or clit, and that's okay too.

2. I couldn't masturbate and enjoy myself for years, so I feel you. I would hit a "peak" that really wasn't much (and often left my clit feeling overstimulated and uncomfortable but with no real orgasm). In part, if you're getting a lot of your sexual knowledge from fanfic, know that orgasms there and in most visual porn are often VASTLY overexaggerated. I do orgasm now, and much more regularly than I used to, but it still feels nothing like described in most fic/erotica and probably looks nothing like visual porn (though I've never seen myself, lol, so maybe I'm wrong).

3. Have you tried using a vibrator and/or dildo? Many women prefer clitoral stimulation, but some don't. And a lot of vibrators can be used without placing it directly on the clit, so you can still get the vibration without subjecting your clit to anything overly direct. I personally find that a relatively gentle vibrator with a slightly larger surface works best for me, because it covers more area and doesn't feel so overwhelmingly zoned in. I have several friends for whom clitoral stimulation becomes way too much way too quickly and hurts the way it used to for me. So maybe g-spot stimulation or a combination of penetration and clitoral stimulation would work better for you. :)

4. Just so you know, you are not doing it wrong just because the things that work in porn don't work for you or because you have a harder time getting off. You are soooo not alone. This is a really, really common thing for so many people, especially women, and there is nothing wrong with you for it.

Re: OP here- TMI ahead

[(Anonymous)]

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I would also add that your body may change. What you like may change. I used to like very different things than I like now, and it wasn't until I started dating the person I am now that I enjoyed having my breasts played with or found someone else who could get me off regularly. Whether it's the partner, some kind of biological maturity, less psychological hangups about sex, or a combination of those, the things I like and don't like have changed so much. If you want it, just keep trying new things and/or new partners until it fits, and try not to get yourself too hung up on feeling like you can't relate or are doing it wrong. If you decide you don't care or don't want it, that's perfectly fine too.

Re: OP here- TMI ahead

[(Anonymous)]

This is a very good comment and you should feel good for writing it <3

Re: OP here- TMI ahead

[(Anonymous)]

Aww, thank you! <3