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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-01-15 06:39 pm

[ SECRET POST #2570 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2570 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Lying Game]


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[Hobbit movies, LOTR movies, Tolkien]


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[Perry Mason]


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[Carnivale]


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[Downton Abbey]


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[BBC Sherlock]


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[Lee Pace]


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[Virtue's Last Reward]


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[Deep Space 9]


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12.
[Elementary]














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Re: I need to crowdsource some introspection.

(Anonymous) 2014-01-16 02:29 am (UTC)(link)
I don't really think it's a good idea to exaggerate your insecurities.

Because if you dwell on your insecurities, even if in a "false" way, you can actually sort of... Jedi Mind trick yourself into thinking that way.

If that makes any sense?

Basically it can become a thought pattern that's difficult to break out of.

It sounds like the approach you already use works.
"I HAVE A CONCRETE FLAW --> I WILL FIX THIS FLAW"
That is great! That is a really excellent way to approach things, and people (like you friends), would be a lot happier if they did that.

If they start going on about their flaws, instead of joining in (which turns it into a big pity part), maybe you can try giving them compliments instead. Focus on their good qualities, the things they're skilled at.

(Or just change the subject to Pokémon or something, but that might come off as ignoring them.)