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⌈ Secret Post #2570 ⌋

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[The Lying Game]

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[Hobbit movies, LOTR movies, Tolkien]

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[Perry Mason]

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[Carnivale]

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[Downton Abbey]

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[BBC Sherlock]

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[Lee Pace]

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[Virtue's Last Reward]

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[Deep Space 9]

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[Elementary]

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Typing on kindle s please forgive.

I agree with those saying that exaggerating or inventing insecurity is a bad idea.

I'm just wondering if part of the issue is the way you and your friends are interacting. You seem confident and successful and it sounds like several of your friends are going through rough times and deal with a lot of self-esteem issues. By their own admission at least one friend is jealous of you.

I'm not saying not to help your friends or be there for them at all. But I wonder if always being the go to advice person is the best relationship dynamic. Maybe your insecurities or lack thereof are such an issue for your friends because they can't help but see the disparity when you're counseling them . Obvs I don't know the situation so take with grain of salt.

Best dynamic or not, a lot of people do tend to come for me for advice. And the disparity is exactly what I'm worried about. :(

I hope I didn't come across like I think there's something wrong with you helping your friends or you being the person they come to for advice. I've just been in a similar situation where I had to reconfigure how I interacted with a friend. We were truly friends with each other but me being the person she leaned on almost exclusively for advice and support ultimately wasn't very satisfactory for either of us and our relationship got better when we had some boundaries in place about that. You sound like a very good friend, and I know your friends are lucky to have someone who worries about them and wants to help.

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