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⌈ Secret Post #2574 ⌋

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Re: "Come mothers and fathers throughout the land, and don't criticize what you can't understand..."

[nyxelestia]

Weirdly, my dad was the bigger feminist between my parents, rather than my mom. That said, in most sociopolitical problems, my dad tends to get a bit too caught up in the big picture, while I'm more concerned in the day-to-day problems. Combined with the fact he still tends to act on certain gendered cultural norms that makes his views a little hypocritical, we...used to have a lot of friction that we've mostly solved by 'not talking about it'.

i.e. he really is big on the natural influence of matriarchy and the concept of societies where neither gender was in charge or where women were in charge. Which is great - it's great that a man gets interested in matriarchy without fetishizing it! But he's also ridiculously afraid of being falsely accused of sexual harassment in the workplace, and so if he is faced with two perfectly equal/balanced candidates for hiring, he will choose the male candidate over the female one (though he also says that the situation of two 'perfectly balanced candidates who are equally good for the position' never really happens). He...did not take kindly to me calling him sexist for that. We've also had arguments over likelihood of assault and sexual assault, and he would kind of go on about the history of sex and power in society while I'm busy insisting that yes, I can walk home from the bus stop an hour later than I usually do, why the fuck are you being ~so conservative~ about this?!

My mother is...extremely liberal, but mostly in that she tends to not pay attention to things like racism or sexism as an issue. She and my father both always tried to raise me in such a way that ignored or defied gender stereotypes. That said, she is also very, ah, culturally entrenched, so while in a general sense she is very feministic (she absolutely loves how all my dream jobs have been high-professional type things, very supportive of reproductive and women's rights, etc), she tends to still hold very conservative and sexist views when it comes to smaller things. i.e. I was never allowed to get a babysitting job because she was terrified of potential molesters/rapists (not even housesitting, because what if the owners of the house gave a key to someone who comes in and rapes you? - completely ignoring that if they had, I wouldn't be there in the first place -_-), she practically had to run a background check on everyone before letting me set foot in their house (so I tended to just lie to her for most of my childhood), and she still has a lot of issues over 'decency' and tends to think that my rants about how 'decency' issues are tools of the patriarchy are just an excuse to be lazy and, say, keep my pads and tampons at the front of the cabinet by the toilet in the shared bathroom instead of pushing them towards the back and keeping them 'hidden from sight'. She also nearly cried when I told her that, when she made me take a ride home with a teacher after I missed a school bus in middle school, she put me in far more danger of being molested than if I'd just walked a few blocks over to (and later from) the train/bus station, which is what I had asked to do on the phone.

tl;dr - my parents are big on feminism and sticking it to the patriarchy in the big picture...but it doesn't always pan out in the little details of life, which are what I largely care about, so despite their liberalism there is still quite a bit of friction.